WHERE ARE THE PARENTS

19 08 2012

I’m sure it is just me, but I am wondering where in the heck all the parents have gone. I read in the papers, hear on the radio and see on the television that the whole community is gathering together to provide for all those things that the children need to start school.  They emphasize that the child must feel wanted, loved, and happy in order to start the new school year. This means he needs all the school supplies packed in a backpack.  And he needs a new haircut and school clothes and whatever else he might want.  And all this is provided happily by the community.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am not against any of this. I agree with this wholeheartedly.  It does help the child to get a good start in school for the coming year.

But my point is – where in the heck are the parents of these children.  I know not everyone is out of work.  And besides, if they are willing to work, they can find something to do to earn a little bit of money, enough to provide for their child to start to school.  Why are those parents not providing for their own children.

Believe me, I know what it is like to be flat broke over and over again.  And yet, somehow, some way, my husband and I always provided for those children to start to school.  And ours went to the parochial school where we had to buy uniforms, too.  And when I was really broke, we would eat frozen food that had been stored before we were so broke and buy one uniform for each child. Then I would wash and iron this one uniform each afternoon so they could wear it again the next day and the next and the next.  

My parents provided for us also.  My father used to complain about having to pay the fees the schools assessed each family for those supplies we used at school. He said he paid taxes that were supposed to provide for that since public schools were supposed to be free for each child.  And he definitely had a point but that is another subject.  My point is that the parents should be providing for their own children these days just like we did before. 

Instead, there is so little learning done in the public schools these days that most of those parents cannot keep a checkbook or even keep up with their own cash.  They do not pay their bills.  They do not provide even food for their children.  Why.  Why.    Why.  Is this but another example of what the 1960’s and its terrible behavior did to us?  And it has been handed down in the generations of those who will not work, will not try, will not provide for their own?  

It is time for all these handouts to stop. It is time to require those parents to provide for their own children.  Instead, they are providing for themselves and let the community, i.e. government, provide for their offspring.  I don’t think so.  It is not the business of the government to provide.  It is the responsibility and the job of those parents to provide for their own children.  Period.  It should be required from each of them constantly, every day, until they get the idea of what responsibility means.  Evidently they do not know the meaning of the word.  It is Time!!!!

No child should grow up thinking that he gets his food from the school, his haircut free, and his school supplies provided with no input from his parents.  I personally think all this free stuff should be charged to the parents and they should be required to pay before they eat out, buy something shiny at the store, and buy more  drugs.  As is said, if you are willing to put up with this, then you can expect to put up with this.  Hopefully, the new administration of Romney and Ryan will put a stop to this behavior.  I certainly hope so.

Vote Republican this time around.  Our very existence as a free country depends upon your vote.  Vote Republican! 

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MAKE UP YOUR MIND

21 07 2012

If you are deciding what to do with your life, take a little time to get a little experience before moving on.   My husband was 20 years old and pumping gas in a service station.  He decided he needed a better job so he quit that one and went to work unloading boxcars for a local business.  First thing, he had to join a union and he didn’t care much for that issue.  In the first place, he was not interested in unions, period.  And then, he found he would have to pay union dues whether he liked it or not.  And then, it was hot summer time and he was not an outdoor person.  The heat always bothered him.

He came home after the first day and said he didn’t  know there could be so many crackers in a boxcar.  He kept that job for a few weeks and then decided that pumping gas wasn’t so bad after all, so he quit.  He didn’t really go back to pumping gas but instead went to work for a dairy.  Didn’t take but a couple of days to decide he didn’t care much for that business either. 

He cooked lots and lots of hamburgers, but everywhere he went, he was not satisfied with his life.  He drove trucks and did survey work.  Nothing satisfied him.

And then, someone mentioned that a sales job was open in a local business.  He didn’t know anything about sales but was looking for his niche in life.  He got the job and was put on probation while he learned how to sell.  That didn’t take long and he had found where he belonged in this life.  He loved the salesman’s job and soon became quite successful.  He used his selling abilities in every part of his life thereafter.  He eventually began his own business, selling out of the back of his car and was very successful at that, too.   Later on, he rented an office and kept right on selling.  The day came when he could afford to build his own buildings and buy his trucks and cars and hire other salesmen.  So, you see, he had found where he belonged in this life.  

He could not have found it if he was sitting in a classroom just thinking about what he might do.  He had to get out there and try for himself and then he could make up his own mind.  He kept after it until he found exactly what he wanted to do in this life.  He was a very happy sales person for all the rest of his days.

Give it a try. Get some experience and then decide what to do with your life.  And then you, too, will be very successful as you will be happy in what you are doing every day.  I would hate to go to work every day and not love what I was doing.  Take your time.  Make up your own mind where you belong in this life.





THE WAY IT WAS – PART TWO

1 07 2012

I brought up some things yesterday that had been the norm during the 1950’s. Earlier than that, very few people owned their own homes.  Almost everyone had to rent.  And what they rented was not all that great.  I know my in-laws lived in what I would have described as real dumps.  They laid their own linoleum floors and were always moving around trying to find a better place.  Not a good way to live.

My parents had rented for many years, but then they were finally able to buy their own house.  I remember going to look at the houses for sale.  One was really nice, but it cost $2,200. and they could not afford that one.  They settled on one that was not quite as nice, but still was o.k.  It only cost $2,000.  Payments were $16 a month.  My daddy borrowed the money from the group he worked with because I remember going by to make the payment every month.  He had a good job and was a good man.  Trustworthy, stable, and always taking good care of everyone.  There were my parents and three of us children.  Besides that, he had always taken good care of his mother.  As he said to me one time, she had no one else to take care of her so it was his job.  And he had done that since the age of 5 or 6.  His father had walked out and found someone else and my daddy was hung with providing for his mother.  If you would like to read more of that story, then order my book,  The Real Story for $10 plus $2 postage from Bet at P.O. Box 2249, Benton, AR  72018.   Enjoyment, pure enjoyment.

All us kids were expected to do well in school.  We were not straight A students but pretty close.  We did not get scholarships or anything like that, but we had a very good public school education.  That was back when they taught the necessary three R’s, if you remember, Reading, Writing and Arithmetic.  And we learned well.  All of us went to work upon graduation from high school.  I already had a job before I graduated.  Friday night was graduation and I went to work at 8 on Monday morning and was thrilled.  Was a great secretary.  Had a lot to learn, but learned well.  Worked for several years before starting a family.

My brother had worked from the time he was 14 or so.  He stuffed papers at the local newspaper office and delivered items and worked at general stuff.  Then he also had a full time sales job when he graduated from high school.  By that time, he had been working in sales for a local company for several years.  Now, it was just full time instead of part time.  

My sister also went to work early.  In fact, when I was 14, my brother took me to a friend who was hiring for a candidate’s run for governor.  He hired me on the spot thinking I was 16 and I made enough money that year to pay for my own school clothes.  Then my sister, cousin and other friends and myself all got a job during the next governor’s race and had a really great summer.  At that time, everything that went out of the office had to be typed individually, so they needed lots of typists.  We all learned typing in school and were very good on those manual typewriters, so we were well paid and again, bought all our own school clothes.  Life was a lot of fun.  Challenging, full of education, and happiness.  Because we made it that way.

No one in my home argued a lot or had a lot of problems.  We just simply got along because we had to.  There were too many of us not to. We had chickens in the back yard and only one car, and rode the bus everywhere we went.  Wouldn’t have traded that life for anything.

I also have another book entitled #2503 which was our address.  My brother and sister wanted me to write about our growing up years and that was the title I chose.  Probably not a good one, but we all like it.  Same price and same address if you want that book also.  In fact, if you would like 3 books, they are only 3 for $25 plus the postage.  A third book is about the 1940’s and all the changes due to the World War II years.  Exciting, scary, and educational once again.  You will definitely enjoy all these books.  Thanks,  Bet





I STILL WANT IT BACK!!!

16 06 2012

I wrote yesterday about things I wanted back in my world.  And then I remembered I also want my food left alone.  I want my tomatoes back!  I used to just love those wonderful tasting fresh tomatoes we got from the backyard every year.  And everyone I knew grew a few of those in their backyard or bought them at the farmer’s market.  Sometimes even a neighbor would give you one or two of those huge, almost split in half tomatoes from their garden.  My mother-in-law grew the most wonderful tomatoes ever.  She would throw her coffee grounds on the tomato plants every day and they grew like mad.

Well, anyway, I want my tomatoes back!  These things they sell nowadays have no taste except sour sometimes.  They are not pretty.  They have no good smell anymore.  And do you know why?  Because someone messed around with the seeds and they took all the acid out of the tomatoes. Now I don’t know how that was supposed to help the environment or whatever it was they were helping. Probably something weird like all that other stuff is.  But they ruined the tomatoes. You cannot buy the old type seeds anymore and so we are all stuck with this made-up tomato that isn’t worth eating.  Even a BLT doesn’t taste like it used to.  And I used to just love them.

I used to can a lot of tomatoes every year, too.  But if you want to can tomatoes nowadays, you have to add acid to them in the form of lemon juice or some such thing. Absolutely and positively ridiculous!  Over and over again.  Ridiculous!

I still want my food back.  Quit messing with the food in this country.  Leave it alone.  If I choose to be unhealthy, that is my choice.  If I choose to be fat and ugly, that is my choice.  If I choose to be healthy, then that is also my choice.  But leave the food alone.  Quit fixing everything for everyone. It is my responsibility to care for myself.  Not someone else’s.

God made the food. God provided just exactly what He wanted us to have and He didn’t need for it to be fixed or altered or changed in any way.  This is His world.  This is His plan for us.  Everything was provided for us, period.  He had his reasons for putting the acid in the tomatoes.  He had his reasons for doing each and everything regarding the foods.  So quit fixing everything for us.  Leave it alone.

Thank You, Dear God for everything you have provided for us forever.  Please take care of us.





13 06 2012

I am getting pretty sick and tired of all the manipulation in my daily life.  I want all my stuff back   NOW!!!

I want my light bulbs back.  You know, those simple ones we used for years and years  and they always worked just fine and didn’t burn out too often and everything was really hunky dory.  Then, you have this supposed hot dog  who decided we all needed new light bulbs just because HE said so.  Whoever HE is seems to think he is in charge of the light bulb  world.  I don’t know about you, but these squiggly  things that are supposed to last forever do not.  They burn out more often than the others did.  Or at least that is what I find out when I have to hunt up someone to come and change a light bulb again and again and again.

And then I want that dishwasher detergent back that I used for years and years and years.  It got the dishes clean.  All the time, Every single time.  The guy selling dishwashers says he gets calls all the time that the dishes are not getting clean.  It is not the dishwasher that is at fault.  It is the detergent.  It is terrible.  It is a waste of money.  Pour some in, turn on the dishwasher and if you are lucky, maybe some of the less soiled dishes will get sort of clean.  But most of the flatware looks terrible and is streaked because the dishwasher detergents do not work.  I know we should all be proud because we are saving something somewhere by not having any phosphates in our dishwasher detergent, but frankly, I do not feel that way at all.   God knows we have phosphates in our detergent and he thought that was o.k  for many years. And we really don’t need someone else telling us that they are saving the world for us by taking the phosphates out of the dishwasher detergent.  Next thing, they will be telling us we need to drag our dirty dishes to the river and wash them in the flowing water.

I would also like to have decent gasoline prices back again.  That is political  anyway.  Raise those gas prices sky high and blame it on the conservatives because they did this or that or the other and then gradually lower them until at election time, they will be back where they were before.  Just watch it happen.  That is why the prices are going down now.  Not because the situation has changed but because that is the plan for the gasoline prices and then guess who will take the credit for lowering our gasoline prices.   BULL!!!

These are just a few things I want back  NOW!!!  We used to have a simple world where everything was up to the individual as to what he could and would buy.  Try to buy one of those older light bulbs now.  Not only can you not but the factories have closed and put all those people out of work.  Boy, that was really some savings wasn’t it.

And just yesterday I got a packet of mail all about saving the Alaska Wilderness.  I don’t want to save the Alaska Wilderness.  I think it is perfectly alright if we drill for oil there and use what God has given to us to use.   He made this world and He knows we are going to drill for oil.   It is His Alaska Wilderness.  He will allow us to use it.  Fine with me.  I don’t think I have to save any bears or anything like that.

Not when I see pictures on the TV every day about how the bears that they have saved somewhere are drifting into the  backyards because there are too many of them and they do not have enough food now.  Personally, I don’t think that is too smart on the part of the people who have saved all those bears.  God has been taking care of the number of animals for a long, long time now.  He had it down just right.  And didn’t need the help of any of those who would save all the animals.  The animals were all doing just fine.  Even in my area, the deer come into the yards looking for food because there are now too many deer.  Not allowed to kill them for food.  Oh No!  Just going to save them for whatever someone somewhere had in mind.  But I think they forgot to tell the bears or the deer or  the wolves that don’t seem to be able to find enough food to eat these days.   Another example of not knowing what they are doing- as usual.

How about just a normal world for a change.

 





SOME DAYS

9 06 2012

This has been one of those days when I should have just stayed in bed.  Nothing went right all day long.  Real bummer.  But somehow I will survive.  I always do.

Even the weather did not cooperate much.  It was cloudy most of the day and humid and sticky.  I mostly just stayed inside.  Wasn’t worth the effort to go out anyway.  Nothing out there but bugs and more bugs for me.   I did go to the dollar store and the bank and the post office and that worked out pretty well.  Nothing to report on and that is a blessing.   And I did empty out my box of Valentine candy today so guess that is a step forward.  But now I will be looking for another piece of chocolate after my meals.  I really do enjoy those.  Both.   The meals and the chocolate.

My children were all busy with their families.  One was watching tournament baseball because she had children playing.  Glad that was her and not me.   I have done my share of ball fields.  Don’t miss that one at all.

Another was traveling.   Glad I wasn’t doing that one either.  Have done my share of traveling and have no desire to do it anymore.  I have been all over the world and thoroughly enjoyed all of it.  But now I can see it all in my mind and I am happy with just memories and not having to wait in lines and sleep in plane seats and wish I was home.

Another was buying feed for his cows.  He really enjoys all that. Glad that is him, too.  Don’t want any more animals.  I think I had at least 51 dogs over the years.   Every time one passed away, we had another within a couple of weeks.  Never a letup from that.  And, did I tell you that dog fleas really like me.  I must have something really special about me because all bugs really appreciate it when I come around.  Had to even wear a flea collar around my ankle one year just so I didn’t itch all the time.  Drove me nuts.  Glad that is all over.  I never go out into the woods or even into the fields.  So I couldn’t have a cow anyway unless he stayed in the back yard.  Neighbors might not like that one.  Oh well, can’t have everything.

My grandchildren are all busy, busy.  Don’t wish I was their age either.  It is nice to sit back and watch them progress in their lives.  Everyone seems to be doing great and for that I am most grateful to Almighty God.   He has more than blessed this family of mine.  I thank Him every day.

Well, that is about all today.  Hope tomorrow is a much better day.  Nothing seriously wrong, just stuff.  Always stuff and more stuff.  For instance, was going to cook a ham today and have it for tomorrow night, but forgot to put it in the oven.   I didn’t want to heat up the kitchen tomorrow, but guess I will have to.  So it will be cooked tomorrow to have tomorrow night.  Hope I don’t forget again.  But I’m still watching Scooby Doo around here so it is easy to forget a simple thing like cooking a ham.

Oh well, another day.





DEAR GOD: THANK YOU FOR FAMILY

3 06 2012

When I was growing up, my father worked at night. Of course we kids went to school during the day, so we hardly ever saw him.  Sometimes we would see him in the car as he left home right after three in the afternoon and we would be hurrying home from school.  Except for his day’s off, we hardly ever got to see him.  But we were still a very close knit family.

My mother was there and  my grandmother always and we ate our dinner together and did our homework together and listened to the radio together.  Then when Daddy was home, we still did those same things together.  Always together.  This was what a family did.

Of course we only had one car and my mother would use it once a week to buy her groceries and pay her bills or do any shopping she had to do.  Otherwise, we really didn’t have any place we had to go.  So we stayed home and enjoyed our home and our family.  Thank You, Dear God, for the example of that family!

When I married and began my own family, we lived this same sort of life. My husband was one of those traveling salesmen and was gone a great deal of the time.  My kids and I still spent time together.  We ate together, we watched television together and we visited with each other quite often.  So my own children grew up with that example in their lives also.  Each of them now has their own families and although some of them travel for a living, they still make a point of being there when possible.   And those families spend that precious time together.  They eat together, they watch television together, they visit with each other often, and they truly enjoy being together.  This is what families do.

I had a lot of children so when it was time for dinner, they all knew they better be in the house and ready to eat at a certain time.  Then we all stood together at the table, each one behind their chair,  while we said our Blessing before the meal.  We had to stand to do this.  Otherwise, we might have forgotten our prayers.  Or we wouldn’t have all started eating at the same time.  So this worked very well for us.

During our meal, we caught up on all the latest news from the neighborhood and the schools and the friends, and whatever else was going on in our lives.  We all relaxed together and enjoyed our dinner.

All these things are some of what makes up a real family.  In today’s world, so many people do not take the time to be a real family.  Please try to be a family in your home.   No matter what, your children must know what constitutes a real family.  They must grow up realizing that this closeness, this sharing of time and conversation, this being together wherever and whenever is what a family is supposed to be.  How can they have a family life if they don’t know what that is.

Help your children to grow up to be family oriented.  Then you, too, can say ‘Dear God:  Thank You For Family’  For this is the most important element in this world anyway.  Take advantage of it every day and enjoy your family life and your family members every day as much as you can.  They will soon be gone to have their own families.  Help them to be successful in their endeavors.  And to thoroughly enjoy their lives.

To be surrounded by the love of a real family is the greatest gift of all.