WHERE ARE THE PARENTS

19 08 2012

I’m sure it is just me, but I am wondering where in the heck all the parents have gone. I read in the papers, hear on the radio and see on the television that the whole community is gathering together to provide for all those things that the children need to start school.  They emphasize that the child must feel wanted, loved, and happy in order to start the new school year. This means he needs all the school supplies packed in a backpack.  And he needs a new haircut and school clothes and whatever else he might want.  And all this is provided happily by the community.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am not against any of this. I agree with this wholeheartedly.  It does help the child to get a good start in school for the coming year.

But my point is – where in the heck are the parents of these children.  I know not everyone is out of work.  And besides, if they are willing to work, they can find something to do to earn a little bit of money, enough to provide for their child to start to school.  Why are those parents not providing for their own children.

Believe me, I know what it is like to be flat broke over and over again.  And yet, somehow, some way, my husband and I always provided for those children to start to school.  And ours went to the parochial school where we had to buy uniforms, too.  And when I was really broke, we would eat frozen food that had been stored before we were so broke and buy one uniform for each child. Then I would wash and iron this one uniform each afternoon so they could wear it again the next day and the next and the next.  

My parents provided for us also.  My father used to complain about having to pay the fees the schools assessed each family for those supplies we used at school. He said he paid taxes that were supposed to provide for that since public schools were supposed to be free for each child.  And he definitely had a point but that is another subject.  My point is that the parents should be providing for their own children these days just like we did before. 

Instead, there is so little learning done in the public schools these days that most of those parents cannot keep a checkbook or even keep up with their own cash.  They do not pay their bills.  They do not provide even food for their children.  Why.  Why.    Why.  Is this but another example of what the 1960’s and its terrible behavior did to us?  And it has been handed down in the generations of those who will not work, will not try, will not provide for their own?  

It is time for all these handouts to stop. It is time to require those parents to provide for their own children.  Instead, they are providing for themselves and let the community, i.e. government, provide for their offspring.  I don’t think so.  It is not the business of the government to provide.  It is the responsibility and the job of those parents to provide for their own children.  Period.  It should be required from each of them constantly, every day, until they get the idea of what responsibility means.  Evidently they do not know the meaning of the word.  It is Time!!!!

No child should grow up thinking that he gets his food from the school, his haircut free, and his school supplies provided with no input from his parents.  I personally think all this free stuff should be charged to the parents and they should be required to pay before they eat out, buy something shiny at the store, and buy more  drugs.  As is said, if you are willing to put up with this, then you can expect to put up with this.  Hopefully, the new administration of Romney and Ryan will put a stop to this behavior.  I certainly hope so.

Vote Republican this time around.  Our very existence as a free country depends upon your vote.  Vote Republican! 





DEAR GOD: THANK YOU FOR THE LADIES

4 04 2012

Ever since the so-called women’s movement began, women were relegated to the not so lofty station of ‘women’.  Before that, there were ‘women’ and there were ‘ladies’.    Women were the type who were out in the world causing trouble wherever they went.  And they still are.  Ladies were thought of as above all that.  They held themselves to a higher station and maintained their dignity in all situations.  They would not dare to shout or to cause trouble or to be in the middle of the so-called ‘fray’.

Instead, they accomplished much but they just went about it in a very dignified way.  For instance, if the community needed a particular item, they would raise money and community support by simply talking to their friends and the members of the business community.  And they would always reach their goal.  But they did it all quietly and efficiently.   They never found it necessary to make a scene nor to be a bully.  Women on the other hand were always making a scene and being a bully in whatever happened to be the situation.

The women made fun of the ladies most of the time.  They talked about their clothing and their manners and their status in life.  In most cases, this was because the women did not have the dress up clothing nor manners nor a status in life. Instead they banded together to simply bully their way through any situation.

Personally, I’ll take the good old fashioned lady any day over the loud mouthed trouble causing women of today.   A lady goes about her business, taking care of her family and doing whatever is necessary in her life to keep all her loved ones happy.  She is perfectly happy doing what she is supposed to be doing without telling everyone else how to live and what they should believe in today’s world.

It is refreshing to see a lady who teaches her children those important manners and provides the comfort in her home for her family and her friends.  She is satisfied in her daily life and makes those around her happy in their daily lives.  She may have a job, that is true.  But she doesn’t use that job to beat everyone over the head with.  She doesn’t find it necessary to be that bully in any situation.

Dear God:  Thank You For The Ladies in all our lives in today’s world.





DEAR GOD: PLEASE IT’S JUST TOO MUCH

17 02 2012

Time progressed in the 50’s  and we had more and more expert opinions from those who knew everything about raising children – although some had never had any of those children themselves.  And the mothers of  those  baby boomers were eating up that advice.  As for me and my husband, we didn’t have the money to buy the books and that was probably one of the best things that ever happened to us.  In fact, I can remember some of my acquaintances being appalled that I did not have that absolutely necessary book about how to raise babies.  But I had common sense and that was more important than anything else.

As those babies grew up, they made demands upon their parents that had never been heard of before.  Every toy that was shown on the television set was demanded by the child.   Even clothing was subjected to their immature demands.   The children learned very quickly that if they did not get their way about everything, they would show their immature temper.  And so, as time progressed, the babies became more and more in charge of the family life and the home and everything related to it.  These children also began to make demands upon our country and society in general. And, as could only be expected, everything went to trouble in a hurry.   Remember, they are not supposed to be in charge of anything, but they made themselves the boss and everyone just went along with the flow.  No one would dare cross them for fear of that awful temper tantrum they could have.  OOOOh!    But remember, this is still only a child and no one should ever be afraid of what he can do. But as they grew up , more and more people were afraid and would not cross them on any subject. Every whim was satisfied.  And there was never quite enough of anything to truly satisfy them.  Thus, the family was affected more and more each day.  The more the children  were given, the more they wanted.

As the mother tried to control her home, she met with more and more problems.  As the father tried to recoup his position in his household, he was ridiculed on every front.  Why, even that funny, funny television show depicted the mother as a real bimbo who could not make a rational decision. And the father was the real butt of the jokes.  Everything he said and did was laughed at .   He was depicted as the clown of the family. Everyone laughed.  Only it was not really very funny.  For as those children watched, they came to believe that they were truly in charge.  Without them, the world would fall apart because their parents were such imbeciles.  And everyone laughed even more.

When the children reached an age when they could demand their own independent life, they did just that.  So, not only did they cause problems at home, but they also caused lots and lots of problems in the public domain.

As the 50’s moved on, those young people became more of a problem.  Now, they were telling the whole country how to live and what we should all expect.  But, after all, what can you expect when they have been in charge since the age of 2.  And they had found that no one dared to stop them on any subject.  Remember, they had been given everything their little hearts desired.  No matter what the cost, that darlin’ was entitled to it.  Even allowances were given in larger and larger amounts although nothing was done to earn those allowances. So the child had more money to spend every day.  And he was told constantly to spend it on himself because he deserved it all.  He was entitled to this wonderful life although he had done nothing to earn any of it.  Why, if he needed more money, the parents wee obligated to give it to him.  That’s what the child experts were preaching.  Give to the child.  Make him happy, no matter what. That child must be happy over and above everything else.

Meanwhile, the mother was being told she needed to get out of that house and be important.  So she was going back to school and getting a job just as soon as possible.  And the father was finding that no one really cared what he did as long as he brought in enough money to cover all those bills and provide for that luxurious life his younger person expected and was entitled to.  As the mother and  father worked constantly, there was less and less family time.  But who cared .  There was almost no family anyway.  Mother and father were gone all the time pursuing their individual lives.  Children were left to their own ways and to ‘do their own thing’.  Such was life during those years. Dear GOD, YOU will have to help us. No one else can.

 

 





TIME TO PAY ATTENTION!!!

28 11 2011

I have been sitting on my hands hoping that somehow, some way some of this idiot stuff would just go away.  Instead, I constantly read this rhetoric in the papers and magazines and hear it on the TV that someone said something here or there that justifies the terrible feelings towards this country and some of its people.  And there is always backup info from the internet to justify these ridiculous ideas.  Wake Up!  It is time to pay attention to some of the realities of life.

There are a couple of basics here.  One – a businessman, whether he be big business or small business or family business, or retail or wholesale or whatever it might be – a businessman is in business for one reason and that is to make money.  He does not work constantly in order to feed someone somewhere who refuses to work.  Period.  End of that subject.  The businessman is in business to make money!!!!  That is a plain, simple fact of life.

Second basic is that – the only thing anyone is guaranteed in this world is an OPPORTUNITY!   Period.  End of that subject.  Anyone, anywhere, no matter the situation can have an opportunity to have a better life.  It is strictly and absolutely up to the individual whether he obtains a better life or not.  Now, he can use all kinds of excuses.  He cannot find a job – BULL!!! May not be the job he wants, but he can find a job.   Next, he cannot have an opportunity because of some kind of oppression – BULL!  There are many, many instances where people have done better in their lives regardless of circumstances.  If the individual is determined enough, he will find that opportunity for a better life.  It is and always has been just simply put – UP TO HIM!!!

No matter what is written or said – these two basics remain the same forever.   The businessman is in business to make money.    And the only thing guaranteed to anyone, anywhere is an Opportunity for a better life.





LUCKIEST TEENS

14 11 2011

The luckiest teens in the whole wide world are those that are allowed to have a job.  It might be that they need the money or it might be that they just simply want to work.  In either case, the parents must be the instigator.  They must not only allow the teen to have a job but to encourage him to want to have a job.  This is a part of life.

Nowadays so many parents coddle their teens and think they are taking better care of them by not letting them have a job.  After all, they are going to send them to college and pay all that tuition and then their wonderful, smart, college educated teen will be ready to face the cold hard world of jobs.

Well, that just simply will not work.  In most cases, the young person must know how to work.  The only way he can learn this is to have some experience.  The only way he gets experience is to get out there in the real world and work around other people and learn how to work.  Working is a skill in itself.  Everyone has to learn all the hard and fast rules of the working world before they can actually hold down a job.

It doesn’t make any difference how much education that young person has.  If he does not know how to work in a real environment, then he will not be able to perform a good job for any employer.  One young lady who was working in a department store at an early age said that she already had several year’s experience when her friends who had been away at college started their careers.  She would see them from time to time.  Those who had never worked still had to start at the bottom of the ladder learning how to hold down that precious job.

After all, everyone has to have a job in this world.  Encourage your teen to work.  Encourage him to get out there in the real world and learn how to hold down that precious job.  Then he can count himself as being one of those LUCKIEST TEENS!    And he will do o.k. no matter what field he chooses as his life’s vocation.





LUCKIEST TEENS

14 11 2011

The luckiest teens in the whole wide world are those that are allowed to have a job.  It might be that they need the money or it might be that they just simply want to work.  In either case, the parents must be the instigator.  They must not only allow the teen to have a job but to encourage him to want to have a job.  This is a part of life.

Nowadays so many parents coddle their teens and think they are taking better care of them by not letting them have a job.  After all, they are going to send them to college and pay all that tuition and then their wonderful, smart, college educated teen will be ready to face the cold hard world of jobs.

Well, that just simply will not work.  In most cases, the young person must know how to work.  The only way he can learn this is to have some experience.  The only way he gets experience is to get out there in the real world and work around other people and learn how to work.  Working is a skill in itself.  Everyone has to learn all the hard and fast rules of the working world before they can actually hold down a job.

It doesn’t make any difference how much education that young person has.  If he does not know how to work in a real environment, then he will not be able to perform a good job for any employer.  One young lady who was working in a department store at an early age said that she already had several year’s experience when her friends who had been away at college started their careers.  She would see them from time to time.  Those who had never worked still had to start at the bottom of the ladder learning how to hold down that precious job.

After all, everyone has to have a job in this world.  Encourage your teen to work.  Encourage him to get out there in the real world and learn how to hold down that precious job.  Then he can count himself as being one of those LUCKIEST TEENS!    And he will do o.k. no matter what field he chooses as his life’s vocation.





OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS!

5 11 2011

Sometimes opportunity knocks and knocks some more and no one hears the sounds.  Other times, opportunity knocks so loud that it almost knocks the doors off the hinges and no one wants to hear the sound.

No one was ever promised a great life nor lots of food in the kitchen, nor even a kitchen.  Everyone has to get out and get it for themselves.   This is the good old American way.  This is how people are able to raise their standard of living over and over again over the generations.  When I was younger, it was thought that each generation should try to raise the standard of living for the next generation to come.  Instead, these days some people are   happy going downhill further and further.  They even drag those poor children along and teach them that this is the way to live.

In a normal company, after many years, a man might make a pretty good salary with all kinds of benefits.  Then if he gets laid off because the economy gets bad,  he might still think he is worth that large hourly salary he was making after 20 years with that former employer.  That cannot be.  He must go back and start over again with beginning salary and fewer benefits.  But many people are not willing to accept that.  They draw a line and say anything less than what they were making before is an insult.  So he collects his unemployment and time passes with no progress.  The longer he is without a job, the more it will hurt his future. Pride has to take a back seat.  Opportunity gets the front seat on the bus.

If the responsible man has saved some of his money and not spent himself into debt, then he can survive until he finds that prime job he is looking for.  Otherwise, he better take whatever is offered.  It might be a cut in pay, yes, or a cut in benefits, yes, but a salary of any kind keeps the wolf from the door.  It provides the money for that rent or house payment and puts groceries on the table.

And then if he is open for opportunity to knock, there will be other opportunities over time and he will once again progress to that larger salary and more benefits.  But he has to work at it every day.  He has to do all the things that make for a good employee.  That means he gets along with his peers, arrives to work on time, and puts in a good day’s work for that day’s salary.

It doesn’t take an economics professor to figure all this out.  It is very simple.  You take whatever opportunity knocks on your door.  You work at it and progress in your life.  You make the best of a bad situation.  But you don’t live on the street and you don’t sleep in a tent on the concrete, and you don’t have to beg for food.  Not if you have allowed opportunity to be heard over the years.  Listen and get on with a good life!  That is how Americans do it.  And have done it for many years in the past.

And don’t kid yourself or anyone else.  There are lots of jobs out there waiting for employees.    And that will be another blog to come.  Meanwhile listen when opportunity knocks on your door.  And open that door to a better life.





MY WRITING

4 11 2011

Hi again:  Blogging twice in one day.  That means it sets a record for me.  Hard to find that much time most days.  If you like my writing, I sure do wish you would invest in my books.  Either that or else I’m going to have to build more closets around here.  Books are accumulating.

My books are very good and people who do buy them tell me they really like them.  I recently sent out a notice to people who had bought my books before that I have a new one out.  Most of the people who ordered wrote me a note and thanked me for letting them know about the new book because they have enjoyed my books so much.  I consider that a really nice compliment.

My books are based on just fun and happiness mostly.  They are intended to be a short reprieve from all the problems of the world.  And they are not expensive either. I only charge $10 for each book or any three for $25.  And they make really great gifts for anyone who might be on your list this year.   Acceptable for anyone from age 8 to 100.  One of the teachers in a school read some of #2503 to her class and they just really enjoyed it.  And I have lots of older customers who thoroughly enjoy reading about all the old times and things that jog their memories.  Just plain fun for all.

I have six books out now.  #2503 is based in the 1930’s and some 40’s.  In The 40’s is about that era and the War and just simple family life during that time.  The Wonderful 1950’s tells of all the changes and how people’s lives took a great big turn.  More family entertainment.  A Better World tells of the changes over the earlier 1900’s and what we can all do to help have A Better World.  Then I have a cookbook entitled Bet’s Cookbook that offers lots of plain, simple tips for anyone cooking for a family.  Nothing expensive here.  Nothing hard to prepare.  Just plain old food that fills everyone up and doesn’t cost a lot of money nor take much time.   And then my latest book is entitled The Real Story and it tells of life in the early 1900’s including up to the integration crisis in Little Rock and The Real Story of Gov. Faubus’ decisions.  This is NOT what was reported in the media.   Then I write of my husband’s experience with alcohol and his recovery and ultimate success in life.  Next,  I offer some suggestions as to how this beloved country of ours got in the mess it is in and I offer suggestions as to how to get out of this mess.

Just thought you might be interested in some of these.  They really are good books.  And make for very enjoyable reading.  Why don’t you give them a try.  I sure would appreciate it.  And then maybe I won’t have to build another closet.  Thanks.  Bet





BIRTHDAYS AT MY HOUSE

20 09 2011

Hi again:  We have a lot of fun with birthdays at my house.  We also have a good time celebrating Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, and all other necessary celebrations.  There are a lot of people in my family and so we really enjoy the visits with one another.  Everyone has such a good time just laughing and teasing and talking and visiting about everything from politics to old times.

We only celebrate birthdays every 3 months.  And it doesn’t have to be any particular time during that three months.  We might have it on the first weekend or the last weekend.  Never know.  We just try to do it when the most of us can come.  And then comes the presents.  And those are some presents, too.  We trade gifts back and forth.  I usually give the kids some money, but it isn’t much.  Then everyone usually gets some candy or treats of some kind.  After that, it is ‘hold the buggy, betsy!’  You just never know what might be in that sack.

For instance, one of my daughters and I trade a cheap, ugly statue back and forth, so we are going to get that if it is our turn.  That’s for sure!  Another child and I have been trading an ugly puzzle that no one could possibly work.  It is all in shades of black and gray and not even a good picture.  He originally got it at the dollar store, but we trade it every birthday.  Then, one son gave me a bag of plastic balls and said, ‘have a ball’.  Another time, I got a gold brick.  I have also received a stimulus check in the amount of $2 million.  I am still trying to cash that.  It came from one of my grandsons.

So, as you can see, presents are just for fun.   There is no great expense to this.  No one has to spend much money.  Sometimes they even make their own birthday cards with cutouts from magazines.  Always fun stuff.   We don’t usually put a limit on the money for birthdays.  No need to.  No one is going to spend much anyway.  And it is well known that not everyone has to get a gift for everyone.  Sometimes we have a lot of birthdays and there is no reason for anyone to be obligated.  It is all just for fun anyway.

I buy a cake at WalMart and put everyone’s name on it  Then we all sing, Happy Birthday to Everyone.  After that, we enjoy visiting some more and have our ice cream and cake or ice cream cones or whatever all those kids want at the time.  We have colas or tea or coffee to drink.  And a great time is had by all.

We do this same thing on other holidays.  Only we usually have a limit of $5 for gifts.  When my own children were younger, there was a limit of $1 for presents for Mother’s Day.  No reason to spend more.  I didn’t want anything anyway.  I usually got typing paper or envelopes or something in that range.  One year, my daughter who had grown up and was working went to get me a present for $1.  She saw a mirror that stood up in the bathroom.  It said, ‘Hi Gorgeous’ so that was what she wanted to buy for me.  When the clerk took her money, my daughter was laughing and saying that she was buying it for her mother for Mother’s Day.  This made the clerk mad and she said my daughter had no respect for her mother and made my daughter feel really bad.  I thought that was truly ridiculous.  Since when did the amount of money spent for a gift have anything to do with respect.  I treasured that mirror for many years.  It was always one of my favorite gifts.

So, next time you are thinking of giving a family party, you might want to bring out some of these ideas and use them.  Makes for a lot of fun and a very close family.  Have a Happy Birthday and make it fun this year.





FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL

15 08 2011

Well, today was the first day of the school year around here.  All those big yellow busses were just scooting right along this morning.  And the traffic was terrible.  Now, I live in a small town and the only time we have a traffic jam is when school is either taking up or letting out.  When I first moved here, that was absolutely wonderful.  I had been fighting traffic while running carpools for many years at that time and I would take that school rush hour any time over what I had been driving in.

I hope all the kids had a wonderful start to their school year.  All the little girls looked so proud in their new uniforms at the school where I saw them.  And the boys were playfully shoving each other around.  Looked typical to me.  Seems like I remember a few of those first days myself.

And of course, I remember a few of them with my own children. In fact, I didn’t think I would ever get through with those first days of school year after year after year.  I dearly loved each and every one of my children, but I did not dearly love each and every one of their schools nor their teachers, nor their friends sometimes.

So, I don’t miss the first day of school.   In fact this morning I was much relieved not to be in that parking lot line of traffic.  And I was relieved not to have to walk another child into his classroom and meet his new teacher.  Oh boy, I sure did not miss that one.

And I’m glad I was not there to pick up children when they got out of class at 3 this afternoon.  Again, I didn’t miss the waiting in line to pick up my child.  Nor did I miss the ‘hey Mom’, I’ve got to go by the store this afternoon.  My teacher says I need a poster board for tomorrow’.   Ugh!!!  I will never miss that one, especially if I have ice cream in the car or have to pick up another child or whatever might make a big difference in my afternoon on that first day of school.

I am definitely not an old grouch nor an old prude nor any of those descriptions that describe someone hard to get along with.  But I can sure get along without that first day of school – ever again in my life.  I’m so glad I’m old today.