WHERE ARE THE PARENTS

19 08 2012

I’m sure it is just me, but I am wondering where in the heck all the parents have gone. I read in the papers, hear on the radio and see on the television that the whole community is gathering together to provide for all those things that the children need to start school.  They emphasize that the child must feel wanted, loved, and happy in order to start the new school year. This means he needs all the school supplies packed in a backpack.  And he needs a new haircut and school clothes and whatever else he might want.  And all this is provided happily by the community.

Now, don’t get me wrong.  I am not against any of this. I agree with this wholeheartedly.  It does help the child to get a good start in school for the coming year.

But my point is – where in the heck are the parents of these children.  I know not everyone is out of work.  And besides, if they are willing to work, they can find something to do to earn a little bit of money, enough to provide for their child to start to school.  Why are those parents not providing for their own children.

Believe me, I know what it is like to be flat broke over and over again.  And yet, somehow, some way, my husband and I always provided for those children to start to school.  And ours went to the parochial school where we had to buy uniforms, too.  And when I was really broke, we would eat frozen food that had been stored before we were so broke and buy one uniform for each child. Then I would wash and iron this one uniform each afternoon so they could wear it again the next day and the next and the next.  

My parents provided for us also.  My father used to complain about having to pay the fees the schools assessed each family for those supplies we used at school. He said he paid taxes that were supposed to provide for that since public schools were supposed to be free for each child.  And he definitely had a point but that is another subject.  My point is that the parents should be providing for their own children these days just like we did before. 

Instead, there is so little learning done in the public schools these days that most of those parents cannot keep a checkbook or even keep up with their own cash.  They do not pay their bills.  They do not provide even food for their children.  Why.  Why.    Why.  Is this but another example of what the 1960’s and its terrible behavior did to us?  And it has been handed down in the generations of those who will not work, will not try, will not provide for their own?  

It is time for all these handouts to stop. It is time to require those parents to provide for their own children.  Instead, they are providing for themselves and let the community, i.e. government, provide for their offspring.  I don’t think so.  It is not the business of the government to provide.  It is the responsibility and the job of those parents to provide for their own children.  Period.  It should be required from each of them constantly, every day, until they get the idea of what responsibility means.  Evidently they do not know the meaning of the word.  It is Time!!!!

No child should grow up thinking that he gets his food from the school, his haircut free, and his school supplies provided with no input from his parents.  I personally think all this free stuff should be charged to the parents and they should be required to pay before they eat out, buy something shiny at the store, and buy more  drugs.  As is said, if you are willing to put up with this, then you can expect to put up with this.  Hopefully, the new administration of Romney and Ryan will put a stop to this behavior.  I certainly hope so.

Vote Republican this time around.  Our very existence as a free country depends upon your vote.  Vote Republican! 





DEAR GOD: THANK YOU FOR THE LADIES

4 04 2012

Ever since the so-called women’s movement began, women were relegated to the not so lofty station of ‘women’.  Before that, there were ‘women’ and there were ‘ladies’.    Women were the type who were out in the world causing trouble wherever they went.  And they still are.  Ladies were thought of as above all that.  They held themselves to a higher station and maintained their dignity in all situations.  They would not dare to shout or to cause trouble or to be in the middle of the so-called ‘fray’.

Instead, they accomplished much but they just went about it in a very dignified way.  For instance, if the community needed a particular item, they would raise money and community support by simply talking to their friends and the members of the business community.  And they would always reach their goal.  But they did it all quietly and efficiently.   They never found it necessary to make a scene nor to be a bully.  Women on the other hand were always making a scene and being a bully in whatever happened to be the situation.

The women made fun of the ladies most of the time.  They talked about their clothing and their manners and their status in life.  In most cases, this was because the women did not have the dress up clothing nor manners nor a status in life. Instead they banded together to simply bully their way through any situation.

Personally, I’ll take the good old fashioned lady any day over the loud mouthed trouble causing women of today.   A lady goes about her business, taking care of her family and doing whatever is necessary in her life to keep all her loved ones happy.  She is perfectly happy doing what she is supposed to be doing without telling everyone else how to live and what they should believe in today’s world.

It is refreshing to see a lady who teaches her children those important manners and provides the comfort in her home for her family and her friends.  She is satisfied in her daily life and makes those around her happy in their daily lives.  She may have a job, that is true.  But she doesn’t use that job to beat everyone over the head with.  She doesn’t find it necessary to be that bully in any situation.

Dear God:  Thank You For The Ladies in all our lives in today’s world.





DEAR GOD: PLEASE IT’S JUST TOO MUCH

17 02 2012

Time progressed in the 50’s  and we had more and more expert opinions from those who knew everything about raising children – although some had never had any of those children themselves.  And the mothers of  those  baby boomers were eating up that advice.  As for me and my husband, we didn’t have the money to buy the books and that was probably one of the best things that ever happened to us.  In fact, I can remember some of my acquaintances being appalled that I did not have that absolutely necessary book about how to raise babies.  But I had common sense and that was more important than anything else.

As those babies grew up, they made demands upon their parents that had never been heard of before.  Every toy that was shown on the television set was demanded by the child.   Even clothing was subjected to their immature demands.   The children learned very quickly that if they did not get their way about everything, they would show their immature temper.  And so, as time progressed, the babies became more and more in charge of the family life and the home and everything related to it.  These children also began to make demands upon our country and society in general. And, as could only be expected, everything went to trouble in a hurry.   Remember, they are not supposed to be in charge of anything, but they made themselves the boss and everyone just went along with the flow.  No one would dare cross them for fear of that awful temper tantrum they could have.  OOOOh!    But remember, this is still only a child and no one should ever be afraid of what he can do. But as they grew up , more and more people were afraid and would not cross them on any subject. Every whim was satisfied.  And there was never quite enough of anything to truly satisfy them.  Thus, the family was affected more and more each day.  The more the children  were given, the more they wanted.

As the mother tried to control her home, she met with more and more problems.  As the father tried to recoup his position in his household, he was ridiculed on every front.  Why, even that funny, funny television show depicted the mother as a real bimbo who could not make a rational decision. And the father was the real butt of the jokes.  Everything he said and did was laughed at .   He was depicted as the clown of the family. Everyone laughed.  Only it was not really very funny.  For as those children watched, they came to believe that they were truly in charge.  Without them, the world would fall apart because their parents were such imbeciles.  And everyone laughed even more.

When the children reached an age when they could demand their own independent life, they did just that.  So, not only did they cause problems at home, but they also caused lots and lots of problems in the public domain.

As the 50’s moved on, those young people became more of a problem.  Now, they were telling the whole country how to live and what we should all expect.  But, after all, what can you expect when they have been in charge since the age of 2.  And they had found that no one dared to stop them on any subject.  Remember, they had been given everything their little hearts desired.  No matter what the cost, that darlin’ was entitled to it.  Even allowances were given in larger and larger amounts although nothing was done to earn those allowances. So the child had more money to spend every day.  And he was told constantly to spend it on himself because he deserved it all.  He was entitled to this wonderful life although he had done nothing to earn any of it.  Why, if he needed more money, the parents wee obligated to give it to him.  That’s what the child experts were preaching.  Give to the child.  Make him happy, no matter what. That child must be happy over and above everything else.

Meanwhile, the mother was being told she needed to get out of that house and be important.  So she was going back to school and getting a job just as soon as possible.  And the father was finding that no one really cared what he did as long as he brought in enough money to cover all those bills and provide for that luxurious life his younger person expected and was entitled to.  As the mother and  father worked constantly, there was less and less family time.  But who cared .  There was almost no family anyway.  Mother and father were gone all the time pursuing their individual lives.  Children were left to their own ways and to ‘do their own thing’.  Such was life during those years. Dear GOD, YOU will have to help us. No one else can.

 

 





TIME TO PAY ATTENTION!!!

28 11 2011

I have been sitting on my hands hoping that somehow, some way some of this idiot stuff would just go away.  Instead, I constantly read this rhetoric in the papers and magazines and hear it on the TV that someone said something here or there that justifies the terrible feelings towards this country and some of its people.  And there is always backup info from the internet to justify these ridiculous ideas.  Wake Up!  It is time to pay attention to some of the realities of life.

There are a couple of basics here.  One – a businessman, whether he be big business or small business or family business, or retail or wholesale or whatever it might be – a businessman is in business for one reason and that is to make money.  He does not work constantly in order to feed someone somewhere who refuses to work.  Period.  End of that subject.  The businessman is in business to make money!!!!  That is a plain, simple fact of life.

Second basic is that – the only thing anyone is guaranteed in this world is an OPPORTUNITY!   Period.  End of that subject.  Anyone, anywhere, no matter the situation can have an opportunity to have a better life.  It is strictly and absolutely up to the individual whether he obtains a better life or not.  Now, he can use all kinds of excuses.  He cannot find a job – BULL!!! May not be the job he wants, but he can find a job.   Next, he cannot have an opportunity because of some kind of oppression – BULL!  There are many, many instances where people have done better in their lives regardless of circumstances.  If the individual is determined enough, he will find that opportunity for a better life.  It is and always has been just simply put – UP TO HIM!!!

No matter what is written or said – these two basics remain the same forever.   The businessman is in business to make money.    And the only thing guaranteed to anyone, anywhere is an Opportunity for a better life.





LUCKIEST TEENS

14 11 2011

The luckiest teens in the whole wide world are those that are allowed to have a job.  It might be that they need the money or it might be that they just simply want to work.  In either case, the parents must be the instigator.  They must not only allow the teen to have a job but to encourage him to want to have a job.  This is a part of life.

Nowadays so many parents coddle their teens and think they are taking better care of them by not letting them have a job.  After all, they are going to send them to college and pay all that tuition and then their wonderful, smart, college educated teen will be ready to face the cold hard world of jobs.

Well, that just simply will not work.  In most cases, the young person must know how to work.  The only way he can learn this is to have some experience.  The only way he gets experience is to get out there in the real world and work around other people and learn how to work.  Working is a skill in itself.  Everyone has to learn all the hard and fast rules of the working world before they can actually hold down a job.

It doesn’t make any difference how much education that young person has.  If he does not know how to work in a real environment, then he will not be able to perform a good job for any employer.  One young lady who was working in a department store at an early age said that she already had several year’s experience when her friends who had been away at college started their careers.  She would see them from time to time.  Those who had never worked still had to start at the bottom of the ladder learning how to hold down that precious job.

After all, everyone has to have a job in this world.  Encourage your teen to work.  Encourage him to get out there in the real world and learn how to hold down that precious job.  Then he can count himself as being one of those LUCKIEST TEENS!    And he will do o.k. no matter what field he chooses as his life’s vocation.





LUCKIEST TEENS

14 11 2011

The luckiest teens in the whole wide world are those that are allowed to have a job.  It might be that they need the money or it might be that they just simply want to work.  In either case, the parents must be the instigator.  They must not only allow the teen to have a job but to encourage him to want to have a job.  This is a part of life.

Nowadays so many parents coddle their teens and think they are taking better care of them by not letting them have a job.  After all, they are going to send them to college and pay all that tuition and then their wonderful, smart, college educated teen will be ready to face the cold hard world of jobs.

Well, that just simply will not work.  In most cases, the young person must know how to work.  The only way he can learn this is to have some experience.  The only way he gets experience is to get out there in the real world and work around other people and learn how to work.  Working is a skill in itself.  Everyone has to learn all the hard and fast rules of the working world before they can actually hold down a job.

It doesn’t make any difference how much education that young person has.  If he does not know how to work in a real environment, then he will not be able to perform a good job for any employer.  One young lady who was working in a department store at an early age said that she already had several year’s experience when her friends who had been away at college started their careers.  She would see them from time to time.  Those who had never worked still had to start at the bottom of the ladder learning how to hold down that precious job.

After all, everyone has to have a job in this world.  Encourage your teen to work.  Encourage him to get out there in the real world and learn how to hold down that precious job.  Then he can count himself as being one of those LUCKIEST TEENS!    And he will do o.k. no matter what field he chooses as his life’s vocation.





OPPORTUNITY KNOCKS!

5 11 2011

Sometimes opportunity knocks and knocks some more and no one hears the sounds.  Other times, opportunity knocks so loud that it almost knocks the doors off the hinges and no one wants to hear the sound.

No one was ever promised a great life nor lots of food in the kitchen, nor even a kitchen.  Everyone has to get out and get it for themselves.   This is the good old American way.  This is how people are able to raise their standard of living over and over again over the generations.  When I was younger, it was thought that each generation should try to raise the standard of living for the next generation to come.  Instead, these days some people are   happy going downhill further and further.  They even drag those poor children along and teach them that this is the way to live.

In a normal company, after many years, a man might make a pretty good salary with all kinds of benefits.  Then if he gets laid off because the economy gets bad,  he might still think he is worth that large hourly salary he was making after 20 years with that former employer.  That cannot be.  He must go back and start over again with beginning salary and fewer benefits.  But many people are not willing to accept that.  They draw a line and say anything less than what they were making before is an insult.  So he collects his unemployment and time passes with no progress.  The longer he is without a job, the more it will hurt his future. Pride has to take a back seat.  Opportunity gets the front seat on the bus.

If the responsible man has saved some of his money and not spent himself into debt, then he can survive until he finds that prime job he is looking for.  Otherwise, he better take whatever is offered.  It might be a cut in pay, yes, or a cut in benefits, yes, but a salary of any kind keeps the wolf from the door.  It provides the money for that rent or house payment and puts groceries on the table.

And then if he is open for opportunity to knock, there will be other opportunities over time and he will once again progress to that larger salary and more benefits.  But he has to work at it every day.  He has to do all the things that make for a good employee.  That means he gets along with his peers, arrives to work on time, and puts in a good day’s work for that day’s salary.

It doesn’t take an economics professor to figure all this out.  It is very simple.  You take whatever opportunity knocks on your door.  You work at it and progress in your life.  You make the best of a bad situation.  But you don’t live on the street and you don’t sleep in a tent on the concrete, and you don’t have to beg for food.  Not if you have allowed opportunity to be heard over the years.  Listen and get on with a good life!  That is how Americans do it.  And have done it for many years in the past.

And don’t kid yourself or anyone else.  There are lots of jobs out there waiting for employees.    And that will be another blog to come.  Meanwhile listen when opportunity knocks on your door.  And open that door to a better life.