DEAR GOD: HOLD ONTO MY HAND AND NEVER LET GO

16 03 2012

I have heard it said all my life that if you will just give yourself over to God, He will hold you tightly by the hand and lead throughout all your life.  That is a little hard to understand and even harder to swallow.  How can you just do that.  Who is going to really take care of you every single day.  Well, of course, that is not intended to tell you just to sit down and make yourself comfortable and then God will take care of you all the time.  Because more than likely, people forget the other side of that coin and that is that  God helps those who help themselves.  So, you see, you gotta’ do your part all the time, too.  If you expect God to take care of you every single day of your life, then you have to live your life to the very best of your abilities every day.  Simple tradeoff. And it does work.

My husband and I had a great marriage and several children.  And then alcohol sort of worked its way into his life and he became a different person.  And our marriage went downhill big time.  I knew nothing of his addiction and did not realize what the real problem was.  He hid his drinking so I knew nothing about it.  Never even suspected this was a problem in our life.

But he was only interested in one thing and that was the alcohol.  I was interested in having a nice life, raising great children, paying bills and living the way people are supposed to.  As time marched on, he became more addicted and thus less of a person.  Not interested in living that nice life, nor in paying any bills either.  And then, I finally realized what the problem was and that was the end of that.

Because of help from AA and Alanon, we were able to scratch our way to the surface once again.  At this time, I had a tiny baby as well as several other children.  I began stopping by the local Catholic Church every day if I had a car to drive and if it ran.  I would only stay a minute, but took all those children and stopped to tell God thank you for all that He had done for me in my life and to tell Him whatever was going on today.  And I did that over and over again, spending at least 10 to 15 minutes before His Presence every day. Just enough to keep me going.  I was determined to have that good life again and I knew that God would get me there.  I not only placed my hand in His Hand, but I offered everything in my life to Him.

Gradually, very gradually our lives turned around again.  And I knew in my heart that God was the One in charge.  He was the One who made it all happen.  We did come back to that good life once again.  My husband started his own business and became very successful.   We had several more children and paid off all bills and were never in debt again, ever.  We also were able to provide well for our children and live in nice homes and drive nice cars and wear nice clothing.

All this was because I turned my life over to God and gave Him the reins to lead me and guide me on. And He did.

I tell this story in my latest book, THE REAL STORY.  Not only is this story in there – and it is very interesting in its detail – but there is also a chapter about my father who came up from abject poverty to be one of the most powerful people in our State.  And it also tells the REAL story about the 1957 crisis at Little Rock High School in 1957 and this is not the story as sent out by the media.

All my books are $10 each plus $2 postage.  Order through Amazon or send check or money order to BET   P.O. Box 2249, Benton,AR  72018.   I also sell my books 3 for $25, same postage.    Thanks, Bet

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20 02 2012

Towards the end of the 1950’s, we had everything going our way.   Progress was in the air for everyone.  And everyone seemed to be pretty happy in their lives.  We were all saving a dab here and there in our Christmas Club Accounts in order to have a great Christmas again this year.  Catalogs for purchases were beginning to be used more by more and more families.  Those brand new cake mixes came out.  Ladies were hired to canvas the neighborhoods and urge the mothers to try out those new cake mixes.  A lady came to my door and gave me 2 new mixes.  All I had to do was bake the cakes and use the icings she brought and then she would come back another day and see what I thought about it.  What fun!  Of course with a houseful of kids, I was glad to bake two cakes that week.  And they ate every single bite.  It was so easy.  I had always had to make cakes from scratch which was a big job.  Just imagine – a cake mix in a box.  Hot Dog!

B y this time, we had had a Democratic President for a very long time.  FDR  was the President almost all my life, from 1933 to 1945.  He died right at the end of World War II. Then Harry Truman as the Vice President took over and he was a pretty good President considering what he faced at that time.  The War was almost over and Truman made an urgent plea for Japan to surrender.  Of course they refused and that was when Truman ordered the atomic bombs to be dropped.  A lot of people to this day think that was the wrong decision, but it was not.  It was the only one that could have been made.  Too many men on both sides had already died.  It was time to be through with that War forever.  And with all wars.

But of course that did not happen.  Next, we had to put up with the Korean problems.  It always seemed to me that it was like two children drawing a line in the sand and saying – ‘This is my property.  Don’t cross that line.’  Of course nothing about the Korean Conflict was that simple.   But it was another War that no one wanted.  Truman won a second term and then did not seek re-election the next time.

This time in 1953, we had Dwight Eisenhower, the War hero as the winner.  We all wore our ‘I Like Ike’ pins and he was handily elected to the office. He was a Republican and most people were very happy to have him in the White House.  His promises made a lot of sense and he served two terms.  He was a pretty good President on most issues.  He did create the Dept. of Health, Education and Welfare.  Not so sure about that one.

He also conquered the City of Little Rock, Arkansas in 1957 and I most definitely am not so sure about that one.  We had the huge integration crisis at the local high school and Ike sent in the crack 101st Airborne Troops.  You know, those are the ones who conquer cities with their tanks.  Well, those tanks rolled into Little Rock and sat at the high school for weeks.  And the story that the media put out was simply not the real story of that situation.

If you would like to read that true and real story, you might want to purchase my book entitled The Real Story.  It is available on Amazon or from me.  Just send your check or money order to BET,   P.O. Box 2249, Benton, AR  72018.  Price is $10 plus $2 postage making a grand total of $12 per each book.  Or you can purchase any three of my books for $25 plus $5 for the postage, making that a grand total of $30.

Meanwhile, back in the neighborhood, the children were growing and those dark clouds were getting darker.   The next few years would be very interesting.

 





DEAR GOD: WHAT NEXT

20 02 2012

Towards the end of the 1950’s, we had everything going our way.   Progress was in the air for everyone.  And everyone seemed to be pretty happy in their lives.  We were all saving a dab here and there in our Christmas Club Accounts in order to have a great Christmas again this year.  Catalogs for purchases were beginning to be used more by more and more families.  Those brand new cake mixes came out.  Ladies were hired to canvas the neighborhoods and urge the mothers to try out those new cake mixes.  A lady came to my door and gave me 2 new mixes.  All I had to do was bake the cakes and use the icings she brought and then she would come back another day and see what I thought about it.  What fun!  Of course with a houseful of kids, I was glad to bake two cakes that week.  And they ate every single bite.  It was so easy.  I had always had to make cakes from scratch which was a big job.  Just imagine – a cake mix in a box.  Hot Dog!

B y this time, we had had a Democratic President for a very long time.  FDR  was the President almost all my life, from 1933 to 1945.  He died right at the end of World War II. Then Harry Truman as the Vice President took over and he was a pretty good President considering what he faced at that time.  The War was almost over and Truman made an urgent plea for Japan to surrender.  Of course they refused and that was when Truman ordered the atomic bombs to be dropped.  A lot of people to this day think that was the wrong decision, but it was not.  It was the only one that could have been made.  Too many men on both sides had already died.  It was time to be through with that War forever.  And with all wars.

But of course that did not happen.  Next, we had to put up with the Korean problems.  It always seemed to me that it was like two children drawing a line in the sand and saying – ‘This is my property.  Don’t cross that line.’  Of course nothing about the Korean Conflict was that simple.   But it was another War that no one wanted.  Truman won a second term and then did not seek re-election the next time.

This time in 1953, we had Dwight Eisenhower, the War hero as the winner.  We all wore our ‘I Like Ike’ pins and he was handily elected to the office. He was a Republican and most people were very happy to have him in the White House.  His promises made a lot of sense and he served two terms.  He was a pretty good President on most issues.  He did create the Dept. of Health, Education and Welfare.  Not so sure about that one.

He also conquered the City of Little Rock, Arkansas in 1957 and I most definitely am not so sure about that one.  We had the huge integration crisis at the local high school and Ike sent in the crack 101st Airborne Troops.  You know, those are the ones who conquer cities with their tanks.  Well, those tanks rolled into Little Rock and sat at the high school for weeks.  And the story that the media put out was simply not the real story of that situation.

If you would like to read that true and real story, you might want to purchase my book entitled The Real Story.  It is available on Amazon or from me.  Just send your check or money order to BET,   P.O. Box 2249, Benton, AR  72018.  Price is $10 plus $2 postage making a grand total of $12 per each book.  Or you can purchase any three of my books for $25 plus $5 for the postage, making that a grand total of $30.

Meanwhile, back in the neighborhood, the children were growing and those dark clouds were getting darker.   The next few years would be very interesting.

 





WHAT IS GOING ON HERE

10 11 2011

I look at the television news stories and I read the newspapers regularly and I keep thinking to myself, What in the world is going on here, or at least in this country of ours.  Surely, we don’t have to live through another hippie era with the campouts in the cities and the bonfires and the guitar music and the non productive citizens.  Surely not again!

But then, maybe I am the only one seeing this.  I saw where someone stated for all to hear that this was reminiscent of the civil rights era.  Well, that was originally a takeoff from the Vietnam era.  So anyone can think whatever they wish.  I just wish they would all get up, clean up, and get a job.  Then they wouldn’t have time to worry about how much money someone else was making every day.  They could only worry about how much money they were making.  And then they could think about how they were going to pay their rent, buy their groceries and clothing, provide water for baths for themselves and their families, and then work at taking  care of their own families.  There wouldn’t be much time for camping out in the city, nor playing the guitars and singing around the campfires.

Eventually, most of  those original hippies had to get a job and take care of their own families.  Time for this today.  Enough is enough.  Get on with life.





SUCH SORROW

16 08 2011

I once knew this wonderful family.  The lady was beautiful, the man so handsome.   No apparent problems.  When they married, it was with a huge, beautiful wedding in the biggest church in town, complete with all the bridesmaids and flowers and groomsmen and huge reception afterwards.  Everything was wonderful!

They started out their life together.  He had a good job, she was a housewife and soon had a new baby on the way.  I remember being in their apartment one time and they didn’t seem to be too happy that day.  It was miserably hot and only a fan for cooling.  So I could understand why no one would be smiling just a whole lot.  They soon bought a home and life seemed wonderful once again.  After the first child came another and another and soon another one.  All boys.  She always wanted a girl, so eventually they adopted one.  Life was too good to be true.

Over the years, the father developed quite an alcohol problem.  And some of that was passed down to the boys as they grew up.  Trouble brewing.  The father continued to be a problem for many years.  The mother opted to stay in her bedroom almost all the time.  They lost touch with most of the world.  And the boys deteriorated.  One went to AA.  He got better and eventually had a better life.  Never did know just a lot about the boys as they grew up except what I heard from other people or read in the papers.

Then the youngest son deteriorated into being a really bad alcoholic.  He tried to work but could not.  Never had a family or anything to hang on to.  He finally killed himself at a very young age.  The father developed cancer and died in a hospital.  The mother didn’t live much longer herself.

Then today, I read where one of the boys was killed in a motorcycle accident.  He was 55.  And I am so sorry for so much sorrow.

Great beginnings.  Life just demanded too much day after day.  What a shame.  What a great sorrow for everyone.  What do you do.  How do you avoid such deep and lasting sorrow.  Just cluster together and help each other, that’s how.  Don’t write anyone off.  Everyone can be helped through love and understanding and  a closeness that only a family can bring to each other.  Stay close to your spouse and to your children.  Let them know you care.  Tell them often how much they all mean to you and mean it when you say it.

I contact or have contact with each of my children almost every day.  If I don’t hear from each of them every few days, I am on that phone or texting or emailing or doing something just to make sure they are alright.  I always let them know I care for them and for each member of their families.  I am there if they need me and they are there for me if I need them.  That is the way it is done.  Keep the doors open.  Keep the conversation flowing.  Love them.  Help them.  And maybe then there won’t be that uncalled for deep sorrow that this particular family endured day after day for many years.  It doesn’t matter what caused all the sorrow or how many arguments there were or what anyone said or did.  The point is to stay close as a family.  You know, that closeknit feeling that only a family can share together.  Who else do you know that knows all there is to know about you.  Who else was there when you were 4 or 10 or 20.  Always remember that.

Tell your family you love them.  If there are problems, work them out together or just learn to live with them.  Whatever happens, you are family.  Help each other!





FIRST DAY OF SCHOOL

15 08 2011

Well, today was the first day of the school year around here.  All those big yellow busses were just scooting right along this morning.  And the traffic was terrible.  Now, I live in a small town and the only time we have a traffic jam is when school is either taking up or letting out.  When I first moved here, that was absolutely wonderful.  I had been fighting traffic while running carpools for many years at that time and I would take that school rush hour any time over what I had been driving in.

I hope all the kids had a wonderful start to their school year.  All the little girls looked so proud in their new uniforms at the school where I saw them.  And the boys were playfully shoving each other around.  Looked typical to me.  Seems like I remember a few of those first days myself.

And of course, I remember a few of them with my own children. In fact, I didn’t think I would ever get through with those first days of school year after year after year.  I dearly loved each and every one of my children, but I did not dearly love each and every one of their schools nor their teachers, nor their friends sometimes.

So, I don’t miss the first day of school.   In fact this morning I was much relieved not to be in that parking lot line of traffic.  And I was relieved not to have to walk another child into his classroom and meet his new teacher.  Oh boy, I sure did not miss that one.

And I’m glad I was not there to pick up children when they got out of class at 3 this afternoon.  Again, I didn’t miss the waiting in line to pick up my child.  Nor did I miss the ‘hey Mom’, I’ve got to go by the store this afternoon.  My teacher says I need a poster board for tomorrow’.   Ugh!!!  I will never miss that one, especially if I have ice cream in the car or have to pick up another child or whatever might make a big difference in my afternoon on that first day of school.

I am definitely not an old grouch nor an old prude nor any of those descriptions that describe someone hard to get along with.  But I can sure get along without that first day of school – ever again in my life.  I’m so glad I’m old today.





GAS PRICES

12 08 2011

Well, surprise! surprise!  Reporters said on the news tonight that gasoline prices would be going down by about $.50 a gallon pretty soon.  That is great.  Now, I want to know why they went up in the first place.  Whose idea was that.  Who was it that decided that the American people needed to pay more for their gasoline all of a sudden.  And now then, they are going to lower the prices and no one really knows why the prices went up or why they are going down.  Sounds sort of fishy to me.  Wonder who will benefit from this.  And who benefitted from the prices going up.  Just wondering about such things, especially with the charged up political scene these days.

Just have to watch what is going on and make up my own mind.  I will definitely vote Republican no matter what because I understand their ideas.   But gona’ have to come up with someone better than I have seen so far.

Oh well, enjoy the break in the gasoline prices – for awhile anyway.  Until it will benefit someone to raise them again.