WOULD LIKE TO GO HOME

4 09 2012

I sure would like to go home today.  Not to a house particularly, but to home in my heart.  I think of my parents and our life in their home and how happy we all were most days.  I sure would like to go back there sometime.  It was wonderful.

And I think of the little house we lived in as a young couple with 1, 2, and then 3 children.  That was a wonderful place, too.  Just those toddlers and their smiles and their cries and their learning, always learning.  Would like to see all that again, too.

And then next was the horrible place where everything went wrong all the time.  No money, a sick baby, run down house, lost everything.  Don’t want to ever go there again.  And hope I never do.

Next was a terrible rent house full of dirt and trouble also.  Still no money and an alcoholic lifestyle and trouble, trouble, trouble. Don’t miss that one, either.

Then when things got better, there was the house with all the children under my feet and the recovery of the alcoholic and the constant teaching of the damaged child.  It was a hard time, but not too bad.

And then we finally made it back to sanity and lived in a wonderful house with all those wonderful kids growing up and growing up way too fast.  The many carpools and meals to be prepared and washing to be done and vacuuming constantly.  Would love to go back and just visit there for an afternoon with all my children in the kitchen and lots and lots of noise and listening to all their conversations at once.  Absolutely wonderful.

Next was another really nice place but some of the children were gone now. Still miss them to this day, not for now, but for then.  Back to the times when they were growing up and stretching their long legs and big feet   under the table and learning to drive and write checks and learning everything.

And then to this big empty place where I am lost sometimes, looking for everyone.  I just wish I could go home, back where I belong, back to those places from before with all the children at home and all that noise and commotion and much too busy days.  I sure would like to go home.

If you would like to go home,too, then look at my books.  #2503 is the one about my parents and their home; In The 1940’s tells of those times growing up during the World War II years and loving every minute of it; The Wonderful 1950’s is all about those years before the troubles began when those toddlers were filling my days; and then The Real Story tells about those alcoholic years and the recovery and success afterwards.  It also tells of earlier years when my father was growing up and the tremendous success he obtained in his life, going from abject poverty to being a very successful individual.

All my books are $12 each including postage.  Or you can buy any 3 for $30 including postage.  Just send check or money order to BET, P.O. Box 2249, Benton, AR   72018.     Thanks.

Think I’ll go dream about going home now.   Sure would like to.

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DEAR GOD: THANK YOU FOR EVERYTHING AGAIN

28 05 2012

We all live this really good life these days.  I don’t mean we are all rich or have everything, but if we try, we do have a comfortable life.  Before God allowed electricity to be invented, people lived an entirely different life than we do nowadays.  How would you like to go back to that time.  Not me.  I am spoiled and like it that way.

So when we were given the benefits of electricity, what would we ever use that for except for a light bulb now and then.  But then just look around.  Not only did people get a light bulb, but then other people invented all those ways to use those light bulbs.   Look in your own room or your own house and notice the lamps and the light fixtures and all those other necessary things of today.

And then think about the woman washing on a washboard and how after electricity, she could have a washing machine and after that, an automatic washing machine.  How fortunate for all of us.

And then, take a walk around your kitchen and look at all those marvelous machines that do everything in the world for you.  From the coffee pot to the garbage disposal and even the toaster.  Do you remember when all toast was made in the oven?    And it had to be planned so we wouldn’t heat the house up in the summer and we only had oven toasted bread in the winter.  That was a treat in itself.  Now, we just pop that bread  or whatever it might be in that slot in the toaster and it is done in a matter of moments.

But then in today’s world, we have these people running around telling us that we don’t need to use the electricity anymore.    I need to use my electricity. And I don’t see any reason why they should think they are in charge of how much electricity anyone gets to use. God gave us this great gift because it was in His time to give it to the world.  Simple as that.  God is in charge of everything, including even the most basic things.  He is the one who decides when we are given the computers and the internet and the automobile and all other amenities that we sometimes take for granted.  He is the one who uses the individual for His plans.  He knows what He is doing.  He will be the One who runs everything.  Not some person who decides they know what is best for this world.

It is God’s world.  I hope people will wake up and let God run His world.  All we have to do is live by His rules and this world can be a great place, one of peace and tranquility, and happiness for all.

You know,  I remember a time before all these problems arose during the 1960’s and that generation decided they knew what we should all do and how immorality should rein.  Remember the words – Forty years I loathed that generation and I swore in My anger, they shall  not enter into my rest.

Enjoy your electricity.   We are all so fortunate.  Thank You, Dear God for everything You have given to us.





7 04 2012

In the 1950’s which was truly a wonderful time for just about everybody, things were o.k.  We lived in an 800 square foot house with three children and didn’t even realize how cramped we were.  We had such a nice time.  The kids played outside all day every day.  We had picnics in the backyard.  They and all their neighborhood friends played in the sandbox that Dad  built.  I ran that washer every single day.  When the local gas company offered a deal of $3 a month to everyone who bought a gas dryer, I was one of the lucky ones on that issue, too.  They had to run a gas line out to my garage in order to install the dryer, but it was truly, truly wonderful.  That meant I had to carry the wet clothes outside through the back yard to the dryer in the garage.  And I didn’t mind that one single bit.  Life was very nice at that time.

Then we all had the Hong Kong Flu which about killed us, but we were still very happy people. My husband had a sales job and the salesmen were making more money that just about anyone in the area.  All the men in our neighborhood were traveling salesman.  We ladies watched out for each other and thoroughly enjoyed our every day lives.  Note – we were all stay at home moms on purpose.

Then those Feminists came along a few years later and gave us all those wonderful benefits we didn’t even know we ever wanted.  And sure enough, we didn’t.  They gave us the right to go to work every day.  Who wants that!    Certainly not anyone I knew.

They gave us the right to have an abortion.   Who wants that!  Certainly not anyone I knew.

They gave us the right to be smarter and more smart aleck than our husbands.  Who wants that!  Certainly not anyone I knew.

And then we could compete with our husbands!  Oh yes.   And lots of people got divorces over that one issue.   No one I knew wanted that one either.

Those feminists marched, hollered, yelled, and whooped it up.  They chanted and ranted and generally caused a lot of noise and trouble.  They even got that glass ceiling broken.  Who wanted that one either!  If I had a glass ceiling, I would just have to clean it!

They gave us the right that every single woman had to get a college education so she could get a good job.  Before them, there were a lot of jobs out there that did not require a college education.  A lot of women could work from their home doing part time secretarial work or insurance work or other things like that.  I know, I did that myself, drawing a decent hourly wage and working in that dab of typing along with cooking, cleaning, and loving my children.

And then they gave us all the right to get to buy and pay for our own cars.  Who wants that!  Before that, our husbands bought and paid for those new cars.  Or used cars. Or whatever as long as it had 4 wheels and a key.  And it moved forward.  We didn’t have to go in the car much so it really didn’t matter.  Until they gave us that right to drive all the time.  After them, we were on a constant treadmill of driving children and driving ourselves nuts.

By that time, we didn’t have many neighborhood schools anymore because we didn’t have much in the way of neighborhoods anymore.  All those happy moms had to go to work to satisfy all those changes. So the houses were all empty every day because the moms were at work and the children were in the daycares or care centers of some kind.  And following that, everyone had to send their children to kindergarten because they couldn’t wait until first grade to learn to start reading and writing.  Everyone was on a fast track now.  It was so important that the children  needed to know so much before age 6.  Why.  Because they said so, of course.

And of course prices increased because most households now had two salaries.  In case you don’t remember the saying – prices always rise to meet income. And that is so true.  So prices went up.  That $10,000 house now costs approximately $150,000.  And it is still the 800 square foot house that is cramped.  Only now it is a lot older.  But those modern people all knew they were smarter.   Oh Yeah!

So, thanks to the feminists, we all progressed or regressed depending upon your point of view.  Mine is regression.  Terrible regression.  And for what!  Nothing!  Except hard nosed loud women.

So, Dear God:  Thanks to the Feminists, we all got a good dose of change of life.  What a shame!

 





DEAR GOD: THANKS TO THE FEMINISTS

7 04 2012

In the 1950’s which was truly a wonderful time for just about everybody, things were o.k.  We lived in an 800 square foot house with three children and didn’t even realize how cramped we were.  We had such a nice time.  The kids played outside all day every day.  We had picnics in the backyard.  They and all their neighborhood friends played in the sandbox that Dad  built.  I ran that washer every single day.  When the local gas company offered a deal of $3 a month to everyone who bought a gas dryer, I was one of the lucky ones on that issue, too.  They had to run a gas line out to my garage in order to install the dryer, but it was truly, truly wonderful.  That meant I had to carry the wet clothes outside through the back yard to the dryer in the garage.  And I didn’t mind that one single bit.  Life was very nice at that time.

Then we all had the Hong Kong Flu which about killed us, but we were still very happy people. My husband had a sales job and the salesmen were making more money that just about anyone in the area.  All the men in our neighborhood were traveling salesman.  We ladies watched out for each other and thoroughly enjoyed our every day lives.  Note – we were all stay at home moms on purpose.

Then those Feminists came along a few years later and gave us all those wonderful benefits we didn’t even know we ever wanted.  And sure enough, we didn’t.  They gave us the right to go to work every day.  Who wants that!    Certainly not anyone I knew.

They gave us the right to have an abortion.   Who wants that!  Certainly not anyone I knew.

They gave us the right to be smarter and more smart aleck than our husbands.  Who wants that!  Certainly not anyone I knew.

And then we could compete with our husbands!  Oh yes.   And lots of people got divorces over that one issue.   No one I knew wanted that one either.

Those feminists marched, hollered, yelled, and whooped it up.  They chanted and ranted and generally caused a lot of noise and trouble.  They even got that glass ceiling broken.  Who wanted that one either!  If I had a glass ceiling, I would just have to clean it!

They gave us the right that every single woman had to get a college education so she could get a good job.  Before them, there were a lot of jobs out there that did not require a college education.  A lot of women could work from their home doing part time secretarial work or insurance work or other things like that.  I know, I did that myself, drawing a decent hourly wage and working in that dab of typing along with cooking, cleaning, and loving my children.

And then they gave us all the right to get to buy and pay for our own cars.  Who wants that!  Before that, our husbands bought and paid for those new cars.  Or used cars. Or whatever as long as it had 4 wheels and a key.  And it moved forward.  We didn’t have to go in the car much so it really didn’t matter.  Until they gave us that right to drive all the time.  After them, we were on a constant treadmill of driving children and driving ourselves nuts.

By that time, we didn’t have many neighborhood schools anymore because we didn’t have much in the way of neighborhoods anymore.  All those happy moms had to go to work to satisfy all those changes. So the houses were all empty every day because the moms were at work and the children were in the daycares or care centers of some kind.  And following that, everyone had to send their children to kindergarten because they couldn’t wait until first grade to learn to start reading and writing.  Everyone was on a fast track now.  It was so important that the children  needed to know so much before age 6.  Why.  Because they said so, of course.

And of course prices increased because most households now had two salaries.  In case you don’t remember the saying – prices always rise to meet income. And that is so true.  So prices went up.  That $10,000 house now costs approximately $150,000.  And it is still the 800 square foot house that is cramped.  Only now it is a lot older.  But those modern people all knew they were smarter.   Oh Yeah!

So, thanks to the feminists, we all progressed or regressed depending upon your point of view.  Mine is regression.  Terrible regression.  And for what!  Nothing!  Except hard nosed loud women.

So, Dear God:  Thanks to the Feminists, we all got a good dose of change of life.  What a shame!

 





DEAR GOD: IF THE TRUTH WERE KNOWN

6 04 2012

I have read so much and heard so much lately about our rights that are being affected by the mandates with the insurance plans directed at us, that it makes me wonder just how everyone must feel.  As I have stated before, women have been targets for a good long while now.  My mother and grandmother were able to stay at home and do their primary job of taking care of family.  They also took care of neighbors if necessary and other families if necessary and all their relatives if necessary.  My father and grandfather and all uncles and other male relatives expected to go to work every day and make a living for all those at home.

Those at home might have included mothers, fathers, aunts, cousins, wives and children.  No matter, it was a way of life.  Women stayed home and took care of their primary jobs and men went out into the world and took care of their primary jobs.  And for the most part, everyone was pretty happy.

I have always blamed part of women’s problems on the automatic washer.  When that came out, women were no longer expected to spend a whole day a week doing the family wash.  And after the permanent press fabrics arrived, she didn’t have to spend another whole day a week ironing all those clothes for the family.  This left her with enough free time to actually watch that new fangled television set or to take her children for a walk or even to visit with a neighbor down the street.  This was a new freedom for most women.  And it was truly wonderful. Because, you see, the woman in the home is her absolute and positive own boss.  She can decide every facet of her life just to suit herself.  She might not decide to get dressed until noon if she wants.  And she might not have to wash dishes until she wants to.  And she can make up her own mind as to when and what she needs to do that day or the next or the next.   The results are all that matter.  As long as her home is clean and her children are clean and everyone is well fed and happy, then she is doing a great, grand and wonderful job as the wife and mother in her particular family.  She is free to cook what she wants to when she wants to.  And she can grocery shop when she wants to also.

Nowadays, some women are so cramped for time that they have very little choice about their lives.  They MUST cook this because of the time element.  They MUST grocery shop when they can squeeze in the time.  They MUST get up and at it early every morning, having no real time for themselves.  But then, they have been told and trained to be career women.  And someone forgot to tell them that they really had a primary job at home that should have and would have come first if they didn’t have to have a career.

But then, that is the way the world turned back then.  And now all young women think they have to  have a college degree in order to run out and get that all important job.  Then they can hurry to work every day and do whatever and whenever someone else tells them what to do.  At home, they could have done whatever they wanted to do whenever they wanted to do it.  But then, they wouldn’t have had that all important career.  Oh Darn!   Who cares anyway.

Except that the women of today think they must have that self -esteem packed away all safe and sound.  They have to have that competing language and that all important position in life.  I just wonder to myself how many young women would really rather stay at home and do their primary job.  How many of them would really rather just be a wife and mother if they had the chance.  I just wonder if the truth were known how many of them would gladly choose that primary job of caring for their husband and children over and above all that career choice.

Wouldn’t it be fun to  get up every morning and just be yourself every day all day long.   Wouldn’t it be fun to watch your children grow up instead of hustling them off to a daycare so that someone else can have this great lasting joy.  It would not be necessary to have a field trip every day.  Nor to be constantly hovering over your children.  It would be so wonderful just to let them be children and you be a mother and a friend and a wife to your husband.  Oh, that would be just great.

If only the truth were known.





DEAR GOD: FORGIVE THEM FOR THEY KNOW NOT WHAT THEY DO

14 03 2012

I remember when women stayed home and cared for their families. My mother did this day after day and all the women at her time also did this unless they were without a man to take care of them.  This was the accepted norm for married life and family life.

I did the same.  I went to work as soon as I got out of high school and had no trouble finding a secretarial job.  Worked for a couple of years and then started a family.  Pretty much the norm at that time.  Very happy life, too.  Never had any desire to be a career woman.  No thanks!  That job at  home was completely satisfying.  I was my own boss and could do as I please just so long as I took care of everyone in the household.  This was fine and dandy with me.  As I said, I was very happy and very satisfied with my life.  I was surrounded by friends and neighbors and family.  What more could I ask for.  We lived in a small home and then a larger one and a larger one as our family grew.  This meant I had more to do to take care of all this family and I loved it.  Wouldn’t have traded it for all the careers in the world. I eventually joined all those other women in the carpool section, driving that station wagon everywhere, but I loved every minute of taking care of and listening to and loving all my children.

But then, those women who thought my life was demeaning decided to band together and convince all those unsuspecting young women out there that they had to have a college education in order to have one of those great careers.  This meant they would all make a lot of money and not have to stay home and take care of that boring family.  They wouldn’t have to cook anymore or do laundry or run the vacuum or feed the babies or iron or do any of that demeaning work.  But – they forgot to tell them that they would have to be at a job every day at a certain time and someone else would tell them what to do every day and they would have to have more clothes and more expensive food and have to put those precious babies in a place where someone else could have the joy of watching them progress and grow.  But this was all to be so wonderful.  Especially all that money they would make.  Oh boy!  Who could pass that one up.  Only most of them ended up making a minimum salary and still having to wash and iron and vacuum and feed their family at home, which also meant they had to still wash dishes and mop floors and do all that demeaning work they had left behind when they embarked on that wonderful satisfying career.  Oh Yeah!

And besides that, those particular dissatisfied women also insisted until they got their way that all the women could have that choice of whether or not they wanted to have those precious children.  They were in complete charge.  After all, it was their body, wasn’t it.  It was their decision to make, wasn’t it.  Oh, but someone forgot to tell them that this is called murder and you don’t murder another human being.  You don’t even harm one much less kill it.  And that precious, innocent human being didn’t even have anything to say about it.  But, those career women knew everything, especially how to kill those babies.  This was the way to go.  They just forgot to tell any of the other women that they would always feel that regret.  They might hide it for a long time, but it would always be there.  And that child would always be in the back of their mind.  Wonder what it would be doing today.  How old would it be now.  Would it be a happy person with a family of its own by now?  And the shame of knowing they did this.  And eventually, what will God say.

So, if you are a young woman reading this today, rethink your future life. Marry that man you fall in love with.  Plan to stay at home and take care of your family.  Plan to have that satisfying wonderful life that you can have if you will just work at it.  Hug those babies.  Welcome them when they come along.  Love your husband and provide that comfortable existence for everyone in your family.  Appreciate what God gives you and thank Him frequently.  He is the one in charge.  He is the one who makes those special decisions.  Recognize that and get on with your life.  It can be wonderful.  Mine was and is today.





PLEASE GOD: WHAT HAPPENED TO OUR FAMILIES?

19 02 2012

By now in the 1950’s, we were beginning to see the first real split in the family unit.  For, not only were the children running the family, but there was so much outside interference, too.

The schools were transgressing into the family unit in various ways.   It was time for things to begin to change to give all our children a better education.   I’m still waiting for that one to materialize.  Before this time, we all learned reading, writing, and arithmetic on a regular basis.  Everyone knew what each year taught and we were all satisfied with that.  Now, things were confused and children were being taught in different and not so successful ways.

And then, the workplace started doing things a little differently.  After the big War, the advertising business blossomed and between that and the television sets, the family had become more open to the outside world.  Instead of being a close knit unit, it was beginning to become just another part of the world around us.  Everyone said the same things, everyone did the same things, everyone wore the same things, and  the power lunches and cocktail parties were a big part of the business world these days.  I cannot really imagine why as I never knew of much being accomplished when people were a little tipsy after a martini lunch or  a standing room only cocktail party.

Not only that, but the businesses started sending their executives all over the country and in some instances, all over the world.  If you were successful, you were going to move.  The business needed you in a new and ever expanding business world.  Some families moved numerous times. As their children grew older, they left children all over the country because that is where their roots were and their friends were and that is where their job was or their college was.  It was a disaster for the family unit.  Also, as the families were moved around, they dropped their extended family.  It had always been true before that a family had branches all nearby.  If you needed help, Aunt someone would come and babysit or help you out.  Or if financial help was needed, you could plan on Uncle somebody coming to the rescue.  Not true anymore.  Some children never even saw their grandparents.   This was also disruptive to the family unit.

And now, with all the hoopla about the women needing to go out into the big bad world and get a job, the family unit got even worse.  No longer could the mother know that she would be there when school was out.  Or that she could take care of her pre-schooler.  So, guess what!  After -school care and pre-school care became available.  As the years passed, everyone could find someone to take care of their children.  Thus, the mother was no longer needed at home.  And, as time went on, too, the government started paying some of the costs for this care for those working mothers.

So the children were pretty much raising themselves or being raised by someone who was not a member of the immediate family.  Wonder who would raise your children.  Certainly not those who were intended to do so.  God must have had that all wrong.  He didn’t know what He was doing I guess.  Sort of like the breast feeding of those babies.  Someone else always knew better.  And the children paid the price.

A lot of the fathers were salesmen during this time.  And a great number of them traveled on a regular basis.  This was the way it was done back then.  Father got in his car on Monday morning and didn’t come home again until Friday afternoon.  So, Mother and children were truly on their own.  Of course Father was making an enormous amount of money these days, but then he had to have a good car all the time, too.  And not all businesses provided for that.  And he spent his nights alone in a motel room.  Watching that television most of the time.  And Mother was home trying to catch up each evening after her day at work.   And the children were watching that television set, too.  Such was life.

As salaries and commissions rose, so did the price of all goods.  As once was said, ‘Expenses always rise to meet income’.  And that is so very true.  Mother had an automatic washer now and a dryer and a dishwasher because she couldn’t possibly do all that work and have an outside job, too.  So more money was spent.  And she didn’t have much time for ironing so most of the clothes went to the cleaners.  Pretty soon, all her paycheck was spent in order for her to afford to go to work.  In the business world, she had to have more money, so this meant that in order to pay her more money, the price of goods had to be raised.  But everyone was going to have that good life, just as soon as they could find out where it was or even what it was.

Our families really need Your Help, Dear God.