FRIEND

28 03 2011

Another friend died this weekend.  I attended her Funeral Mass this morning.  We were not really close friends or anything like that.  We just saw each other now and then if there was a wedding shower or a baby shower at the Church.  Or maybe we passed at Mass or sat near each other in the pews.  But she was still a friend as far as I was concerned.  I talked to her a couple of times on the phone over the years.  Sometimes we passed going in or out of the Eucharistic Adoration Chapel.  She was always nice and acted as though she was glad to see me or hear from me.  It was a good relationship.  One that you think about now and then.

Her husband died several years ago.  I had seen him and talked with him from time to time over the years.  His slow death was one of those in and out of the hospital type of wearing down until he could go no longer.   It wore her down, too.  I would still see her but not as much.  But I  heard about her from time to time and knew she was doing o.k.

When my husband died a couple of years later, she made a point of looking me up.  As she held my hand and told me how sorry she was,  she said,  ‘Whatever you do, don’t sign anything.  Never sign any papers.  Just don’t sign anything.’   And then she was gone.

I thought about all that while the Mass was going on this morning.  I appreciated her concern for me, thinking that I might be confused and might just sign something I would be sorry for.  I didn’t plan on signing anything anyway, but I still knew that she worried about that for me.  And I thanked her once again in my mind.

Sometimes, it is the little things you remember about someone.  She was concerned enough to make a point of talking to me and warning me in case I might be in some sort of danger.  I still appreciate all that.  That is what a friend does.  A friend cares.  A friend looks you up and tells you that they care.  A friend doesn’t have to be around all the time in order to be a real friend.

So, this morning I told another friend goodbye.   May she rest in peace.

 





PLANNED PARENTHOOD CONTINUED

27 03 2011

I wonder how many babies have been aborted by Planned Parenthood. I really don’t want to know as I am sure it would be a terrible number.

My thought, though, is that we already know what a terrible travesty murder is.  And we already know how very much abortion has offended Almighty God. And we already know how deeply hurt some people are by this horrific act.  But I wonder if anyone has ever thought about the economics of this issue.

A whole generation of people has probably been destroyed.  Might even be more than that.  And that means that all those families did not have their children.  The children did not attend the schools.  They did not grow up and go to college.   And they did not have a job.  This contributes to the economy in every possible way.  From groceries to gym costs to school books to college tuition.  All is gone.  Poof!  gone with the wind.

How much would that generation of people have contributed to possible new technologies or inventions or medical breakthroughs.  How many times would they have helped their communities and the generations who have come along behind them.  How much does that count for.

I know many of our young men were sacrificed by the Democrats in the Vietnam War.  That whole generation was killed or maimed in some horrible way.  How many of them would have contributed to the betterment of society.  How many children would they have had that would have contributed.  And what a terrible loss that was.  That is why we had to have the feminist movement, to compensate for the fact that most of the young men no longer existed.

Just look at the changes in our lives and in our lifestyles.  How much would these poor, innocent babies have contributed for all of us.  But then, you must remember that Planned Parenthood still wants us all to further this travesty against mankind and against Almighty God by having the federal government fund them more.  How awful!

Do you, as a taxpayer, want to fund them any longer?   I do not.

 





PLANNED PARENTHOOD TV COMMERCIAL

26 03 2011

I have just seen the commercial for Planned Parenthood.  Lady says they diagnosed her cancer so many years ago and how fortunate she is that they found it.   And she has lived a long time since then.  Then they tell how many tests they run for free evidently.  All you have to do is just go in and they take good care of you.  And will also give you an abortion, but the commercial doesn’t mention that tiny detail.

What they don’t tell is that you can get the same tests done everywhere in the country for free if necessary at local health departments, whether it be city, county, or state.

And they also don’t tell you how many poor innocent babies were slaughtered while this lady has lived this long, wonderful life since her diagnosis.  How many millions have they aborted since she had her testing?  Makes you wonder.  Wouldn’t it maybe have been better if she had gotten her diagnosis somewhere else and Planned Parenthood had not existed?  Then that whole generation of babies might still be alive today.

Of course the main reason for the commercial is so people will think that Planned Parenthood should receive funding from the federal government.  If you have kept up with the news lately, you realize that is an iffy situation right now.  Congress is maybe going to cut off their funding.  Without government funding, no more Planned Parenthood.  And that would definitely be a good thing. No more killing of babies.

What a terrible, terrible waste.  And how do you really justify murder.  Have to think long and hard to come up with an answer to that one.  Murder is murder and you really can’t change the definition of it.  The result is always the same.  What a terrible, terrible waste.

And all those other freebie tests would have to be done free somewhere else.  So why have Planned Parenthood at all.  Don’t need funding for abortions.  Not here.  Not in this country.  Not where we value life.  And especially life for those innocents who have been slaughtered every day for years and years and years.

Wonder how many.

 





TRUMP FOR PRESIDENT?

25 03 2011

I just read an interview  with Donald Trump that was printed in Human Events.  And I have to tell you, I am very impressed.  I laughed to myself when he said he was going to run or thinking about running, but after reading his statements, I am going to look very closely at him.

He made statements such as Russia shouldn’t be telling us  how to run our military and how many missiles we can make, etc.  He said we won the cold war, not them.  True.   He also said all those countries that owe us money should be made to pay us back and then we wouldn’t have any economic problems.   Said everyone in the world uses us and doesn’t pay us one single cent for all our ships, planes, men, etc.  True.  Also said we need to bring our troops home and rebuild our military and then no one would cross us again.  We would not have to fight anywhere, just let them know where we stand – and he would definitely do that – and no more trouble from anyone.  I’m all for that one, too.  He said OPEC should back down and quit acting like they own us.  Agree with that.

He also said he cannot believe the pirates taking the huge ships with only a rowboat.  Said it wouldn’t take him long to get rid of all that.  Hooray!

He also said he is definitely pro-life.  And I am definitely for that one.  Says health care plan must go and would be gone within a short time if he were elected.  I am for that one, too.

He said China is using us every day and I agree with that.  He said he would put a 25% tax on all imported goods from China and that would solve that problem.  I agree with that one, too.   Then many of our jobs would open up again and we would be seeing Made in U.S.A. on most of our goods we buy.  Hooray!

He also said he knows how to work with the unions and has no problem with all that.  If he can work out fair agreements with them, then I would be for that one, too.  It’s those unfair things I don’t like.  Not the unions themselves.

He said a lot of other things, too.  But I was very impressed with most of his ideas and will be watching him over the next several months to see what happens.  I think Huckabee makes a good Tv host.  Palin has sort of fizzled.  At one time, I thought they would make a great team, but do not see that anymore.  I never have liked Romney and don’t even know who Pawlenty is and don’t care.  Newt killed his chances years ago as far as I am concerned.  And the younger people are not going to vote for him anyway.  Don’t know who the Congresswoman is that they keep trying to push, but am not impressed enough to find out either.  That is not a good sign.

Donald Trump seems to have what it takes to attract the younger people and I think his conservative ideas will go a long way with the older crowd.  So who knows.  It may just be President Trump.  And who can resist that hair anyway.





LIGHT BULBS

24 03 2011

I understand Congress is supposedly going to vote out the law about having to change our light bulbs.  I hate these new bulbs.  They are a pain in the neck to me.  So far, they do not last nearly as long as the others did.  I have a lot of light bulbs in my house that are unreachable for me.  So that means that I have to depend on someone else to change them.  That is why I know how long the bulbs last.  And it ain’t very long most of the time.

One night, I turned off the hall light outside my bedroom and the light started flashing.   The switch was turned off, but the bulb kept right on flashing.  Well, to make a long story short, including a trip to the electric box to make sure a circuit had not blown, I had to go to bed with that light flashing all night.   Not a good night for sure.   Next morning, I contacted the electrician and he came to check it out.  By this time, I was just grateful my house had not burned down.  He was also confused  for a few minutes.  And then he realized that particular light bulb was on a dimmer switch.  So that is why it was flashing all night.  You cannot use those kind of light bulbs on a dimmer switch.  And it says so right there in fine print on the box of light bulbs I had just purchased.  But of course I am not in the habit of reading the light bulb boxes, so I had not seen that.

I have been using light bulbs all my life just like everyone else.  I never knew I had to read the box.  I didn’t know there were light bulbs you cannot use on a dimmer switch.  Another reason to not like the newer light bulbs.  Another reason is that I think they are ugly.  They don’t seem to enhance any area at all.  And I simply do not like them.

And then recently, I heard of an autistic woman speaking at a workshop and she said the newer light bulbs are terrible for an autistic person.  She said they see things differently than everyone else does and those light bulbs make things ever more difficult for them.

I don’t know why we have to have this change crammed down our throats anyway.  If someone want to buy those kind of light bulbs, then so be it.  But we should have any kind of light bulbs we want to buy.  After all, we are the United States of America.  We have had light bulbs for a long, long time.  Who is suddenly in charge that we can be told we cannot buy the light bulbs we prefer.  What has happened here in this country?  Why is someone else suddenly telling us how we have to live and what we have to do every day.  Never happened before.

Think about that.  A lot.





WRITING BOOKS

23 03 2011

I am writing another book.  Nothing unusual about that. The first part tells the story of my husband’s alcoholism and his recovery and rise to success.  Have not decided for sure what to name the book yet.  Am calling it Success, but don’t think that has much of a ring to it.

And then the next part of my book will be about my father and his rise in life from living in abject poverty to being the state governor’s secretary.  And will include some of the true story about the 1957 crisis at Little Rock High School.  The media never told the true story about that.   Most of their story  was just a lot of noise.

So, I am through writing the part about my husband and it is reasonably good reading.  Have had a lot of nice comments about it from those who have read the manuscript.  Started on the second part about my father and wrote for about an hour and a half one day last week.  I was so pleased with what I had written and it was just right – perfect.  Then, then, then, I erased all of it.

Just pushed the wrong button and off it went, straight out into never, never land.  Tried to retrieve it, but the computer didn’t know what I was talking about.  I’m sure it was the computer’s fault as I would never dare to make such a stupid mistake.  I thought those buttons were there to be pushed and so that’s what I did.  Just pushed a few buttons.   Oh, well, never too late to start again.

You might look at some of my books.   They are listed on Amazon.com as booksbybet.com.  You would definitely enjoy them.  All about life as it used to be.  #2503 tells about growing up in the 30’s and 40’s.  In The 1940’s tells the story of the War and living through it.  The Wonderful 1950’s is all about that time when the whole world changed.  I also have a cookbook called Bet’s Cookbook, (novel title) and it is really great, telling tips about how to save money while filling up all those kids.  And that is one great challenge for sure.

And then, have one based on the Ten Commandments called A Better World.  Short and to the point.

Check them all out.  You might just like one or two.  Thanks, Bet





TO BE SOMEBODY

22 03 2011

When I was a young person, I always thought it would be nice to be ‘somebody.’  However, I never figured out who that ‘somebody’ was.  I went to all the nice parties and did all the right things, but never felt like I was really ‘somebody’.  So I finally decided that wasn’t the ‘somebody’ I wanted to be anyway.    I was happier just being me.

After I was married and had small children, I would see all the ‘somebody’ ladies going to lunch with their silk blouses on and their flashy rings.  This was it!  I could be one of them.  Only I couldn’t.  I didn’t have the money for lunch and I didn’t own a silk blouse and had no flashy rings either.  So that must not be the ‘somebody’ I want to be.

Later on, I had more money, a nice car and my children were in school.  Now I could be ‘somebody’.  But – couldn’t do that after all.   I was too busy driving carpools and shopping and cooking and cleaning and washing and ironing.  Couldn’t be ‘somebody’ doing all that.  Never did get that silk blouse either.  If I had it, I probably couldn’t have found it during those years.

Then, when all my children were grown, I knew I could be ‘somebody’ now.  I had the time, the lunch money, the silk blouse, and I was just sure this was the time in my life to be ‘somebody’.  Only it wasn’t.  I really didn’t want to be that ‘somebody’ anymore.  I had found there were better things to be in this life.

Now, I only want to be pleasing to God in whatever it is that I do each day.  Couldn’t care less for the silk blouse or the flashy rings or the perfect house or the ‘somebody place’ in social life.  I still just want to be me.  I am very happy with me and my relationship with God.  For that, I am most grateful.  Thank You, Dear God.  And Thank You for not letting me be ‘somebody’ ever.





DEMOCRATS!!!!

13 03 2011

I don’t claim to know a lot about history except what I have lived through.  Those Democrats have about ruined us as a country for the last 50 years.  FDR started the Social Security of course.  At that time, everyone was supposed to be dead before they collected.  Most of know that by now.  At that time, all Social Security payments were completely free from all sorts of taxation and anything else that would deplete their intent.    Jack Kennedy didn’t have time to do much in his tenure in the White House.  But then Lyndon Johnson made up for any lost time.  He completely destroyed just about everything that was the true U.S.A.   He and his Democrat buddies in Congress together gave the store away.  I can see him now telling the country how wonderful he was with his Great Society program.  He had all the answers except one – who would pay the bills for all his giveaways.  Well, of course you know the answer to that one by now.  WE are paying the price every day in all that we do and in all those taxes we are paying and paying and paying and have been paying for a long, long time and will pay for an even longer time.

And then Jimmy Carter came along and added even more stupid programs to those that were already there.  The Dept. of Energy is his crowning achievement though.  We are paying for that  fiasco every single day, too.

And then Bill Clinton came along and he has done even more damage.  When he was Governor in Arkansas, he raised taxes 148 times.  But the media didn’t tell anyone about that one.  They wanted their darling Bill to be elected and he was.  Just get the American media on your side and you can get by with anything.  As long as there is a story there and they can bring in all their people and equipment and make a big deal out of it.

On the Republican side, I can’t say a lot good about Eisenhower.  He really wasn’t cut out to be president.  He was a good guy, I’m sure, and liked to play golf a lot, but that was about it.    George Bush was a great president.  But he was a victim of those funny Democrats.  They refused to pass any of is legislation so we had gridlock over and over again.  And the Democrats just laughed up their sleeves.  Had put one over on the American public once again.  Ha Ha.  So funny.

Then when George W. came along, they did the same thing to him.  And are still doing it every day when they can get the media to print something else.  But the Democrats and the media were all laughing so hard and that was all that mattered.  To heck with the taxpayer.  To heck with the government.  None of that mattered.  It was the gotcha’ atmosphere once again.

Pay attention when it comes time to vote once again.  Do not listen to the media.  Study the issues yourself.  Make up your own mind.  Then vote.  But by all means, vote.  I said earlier I think only those with a job should be allowed to cast a vote.  That would be too hard to enforce since there are so many tricks to the trade these days.  Maybe if only honest people could vote.  Wonder how that would work.   Oh well, something will come along to straighten out this horrible mess.  Always does.





STUFF

12 03 2011

Well, I don’t know about you but I am sick and tired of all this STUFF going on everywhere. The national debt is just plumb disgusting.  When you think that all those people who have never been born yet having to pay off all this stilly STUFF  that these politicians have thought up just makes you sick.  And don’t think it is primarily because of the Republicans because it most certainly is not.  Those Democrats have about ruined all of us.

The so-called housing crisis started under Bill Clinton because he and his bunch lowered the rules for buying a house in order to get more of those so-called poor into housing.  Well, I’m sure that was a good thought but just look at the mess it has created.  And George Bush didn’t do anything to stop any of it either.  And then this Obama has made it far, far worse all the time.  And now the whole country is in debt up to its neck.  Stupid STUFF!!!

And now they tell us that gas prices and food prices HAVE to rise because it costs more to ship STUFF!  Well, that’s a hoot if I ever heard one.  Obviously, we have oil running out our ears around here and yet we are buying from people across the world and being told we need to not be so dependent on foreign oil.  The way I see it is God put that oil under this land for us to use so how come we aren’t using any of it.  Ridiculous STUFF!  absolutely ridiculous.

A man stopped me at a gas station one day and asked me if I felt guilty about driving a big car.   I said I most certainly did not.  Why should I.  I enjoy driving it and have been driving that sort of car for years and years and years.  He was a so-called green person and was driving an old clunker – which uses more oil and gas – and pulling a trailer – which uses more oil and gas.  More STUFF!  ridiculous STUFF!   Electric cars?  Had them in the 1930’s and 40’s.  As long as you only wanted to go around the block, they were a lot of fun.  Not for me.  Not for most people.

And why should our food prices rise.  We have enough food here in this country that we ship it overseas regularly in order to feed all those hungry people we see in the pictures and on the television.  So why should we be paying more for our food here.  Doesn’t make much sense to me.  Just more STUFF!  stupid STUFF!  In the first place, we have farmer’s markets all over the country.  Why are we shipping food in from everywhere else.  Mexican tomatoes that had food poisoning a couple of years ago.  Why not buy the local STUFF! Even Wal-Mart pushes the local STUFF!  So buy that.

Seems to me that one solution to all our problems would be to make it mandatory that a person  have a job before they can vote.  Used to be back when, a person had to own property in order to vote.  Now everyone votes, even those who have no idea what or who they are voting for.  Just follow the crowd.  Plug into the internet and do whatever you are told.   If they cart you to the polls, you vote for them.  If they provide a meal, vote for them.  Whatever works.   And now we have people everywhere who do not work, live on the handout, and vote for administrations who think that is the way  everyone should live.  So maybe if everyone had to have a viable job before they voted, it might solve some of these problems with STUFF and more STUFF and more STUFF!

 





LIVING WITH AN ALCOHOLIC

9 03 2011

Do you know what it is like to live with an alcoholic?  Unless you have done so, you cannot imagine the life.  Although everything seems o.k. on the outside, nothing is really o.k. on the inside.  It may be that the alcoholic is a very nice person, never causing any problems at all.  But you can believe there are hidden things going on all the time.  For you see, the alcoholic really doesn’t care much for anything else except that alcohol.  That doesn’t happen overnight usually.  It builds up over time.

And gradually over time, the family takes less and less thought or love or even civility.  For as the alcohol becomes more important, everything else, including the family becomes less important.  That includes the wife, mother, father, children, or whoever might be considered a part of the family.  The alcoholic eventually has no desire to be with anyone else or anything else except that alcohol.  For here all his problems are solved.  Or so he thinks.

Meanwhile, he is compounding problems with his family and his work and his friends.  But he doesn’t care anymore.  All those people could just simply disappear from his life and he would be very happy.  Alcohol eventually becomes a matter of money.  If the alcoholic can get enough money to drink that day, he is satisfied with life.  If not, he will figure out some way to get that money, no matter what.  He might steal from members of the family or from his workplace or wherever he thinks he can get by with it.

Eventually, too, work ceases to exist.  And comes the day when he no longer has a job or is retired early or some other reason why the employer can get rid of him.  He doesn’t care about that either.  If he can manage enough money to drink, he will be set for life.  

I am writing a book now about living with an alcoholic.  Check out my books at booksbybet.com    They are very good and pretty cheap.  The first one is #2503 which was the address where I grew up.  I had a normal, fun filled life and tell about that while giving lots of information on the history of the times.  Next is In The 1940’s which tells the story of World War II and the family’s life before, during and after that War.  Lots of daily living history in that one.  Then there is The Wonderful 1950’s when changes, changes abound and the whole world seems to change.  Fun and laughter in all the books.  Then I also have a cookbook entitled Bet’s Cookbook that gives lots of fun advice and good cheap from scratch recipes for feeding a family.  I had to learn how to do that since I didn’t have much money and did have a lot of kids to feed.  It was like King Henry VIII sat at the table with knife and fork in hand and said ‘Feed Me’!  So I had to learn how.  Look the books up.  They are available on Amazon.com.    You will enjoy all of them.  Thanks.